Most men think they’re great in bed”, observed Jane, a marriage counsellor.

“But much as we love our men, a five minute quickie before lights out really doesn’t get the earth moving! It’s not that they lack enthusiasm. They’re just being typical male – always ready for action. The problem is their technique – most of them don’t have any. Foreplay is clumsy and hurried, and as for the sex, it’s always wham, barn, was that it?!

YOUR feelings are hurt and you want your other half to know it. You stamp round the house, slamming doors, tossing your head and sighing heavily. But he seems oblivious. You move on to the silent treatment and he still carries on as normal. It’s only when you cry with frustration that he actually comes over and puts his arm around you.

Janet and I have being courting for almost nine months now. We dated for about two years before we started making plans for marriage. And in those two years and nine months, we made love like every other couple without protection. We started attending this marriage counseling class at my fiancée’s renowned church and we were told to know our HIV status, Janet did hers before I even thought of mine.

It’s no secret that sex in the office is as commonplace as sex in anywhere convenient-all you need is a little bit of privacy and a lot of ingenuity. But, have you ever thought of avenging a wrong by giving yourself an earth-shattering bunk? And, in the office? When this happened to Gbemi, she swore revenge sex was the furtherest on her mind when she was dumped by her boyfriend of two years. I was doing my youth service in a big office when John dumped me,” she said. “It was a dream office to work in and I wanted to make a good impression as I was hoping to be invited to stay permanently. But concentrating on my job was almost impossible.

For some women, hitting the menopause could kill off their sex life. “For almost 30 years, I had a great sex life with the man I eventually married,” said Oge, now 54 and a matron in a private hospital. “I’d had beautiful orgasms with him most of the time until two years ago when I reached the menopause and my orgasms simply disappeared.

I know that this is partly my fault for loving him wrongly and blindly. How could I have thought that he was honest when most men tell lies at a drop of a pin? Why should l believe a man who claimed he is squatting with his friend, yet none of his clothes are in the friends place? A man that won’t allow me visit his friend’s place except he is there. A man who leaves the room whenever he wants to pick a call?

IT used to be a man’s prerogative to say something ‘clever’ like “I’m in love with you” to get a woman shag – happy. These days, you’ll be glad to know, that ladles are turning into sexual predators too. Quite a number will do anything to get into a man’s pants. Sexologists agreed that it would be a matter of time when women would start approaching sex in what’s still considered a ‘bloke-like’ manner.

WHAT IS happening to our teenage-girls these days? According to an observer, “They dress in provocative gears that reveal as much flesh as any professional. When the average teen girl is old enough, she wants to go out and have sex where and when she wishes with any lad who takes her fancy. And, her biggest ambition is to sleep with various celebrities – the more atrocious, the better.

I was at the verge of saying ‘I do’ to my college sweet heart in church last year, but I called it off because on my wedding’s eve I caught my best friend in bed with my fiancé. I met Emeka through Esther while we were still in the University. Esther lived in the same […]

There are some experiences you would have laughed at as being ludicrous if they hadn’t happened to you. For two years, Michelle, a 30-year-old IT analyst was blissfully in love with her man of two years. She was more financially well off than he was but after a year together, Anthony, her beau, convinced her he wasn’t a gold-digger. According to her, “Watching him help out at my house, decorating and helping with my cars convinced me that perhaps we did have a future together. So, when he started urging me to start making wedding plans, I was very excited. He was a very handsome man with whom I was sure we would make lovely babies.

The following dialogue ensued between a brother and his sister when she came calling at his house in search of her missing husband. Her husband had gone to her brother’s house the previous evening to collect the money her brother had borrowed from him and had refused to pay back. But while he was at her brother’s house, he called to tell her that her brother wasn’t still back and he has plan to wait for his return. But he didn’t make it back home.

A few years back, a group of my friends resolved to resort to subtle match making between our fast growing kids so we could at least have an input in the success of their marriage. The success we’ve had so far is not very encouraging. When it comes to romance, these youngsters knew what they want and no subtle or outright hints, contrary to their wish, would shift them. Still, there’s no harm in trying. And when Gemma, a friend’s first daughter came back from the States a couple of years back, our match-making instinct became sharpened.

When I met Greg at a workshop recently and realized he was only 29, I lied I was in my 30s when the fact is, I was over 10 years older,” confessed Theresa as she gloated of her latest conquest. “My friends urged me to go for it – to enjoy it while it lasted. And why not? He was still single, very good – looking and thrilled with the idea of bedding a ‘sugar mummy’. I asked him if he’d slept with older women before and he clamped up. No skin off my nose really.

I heard the sad news of my children’s death. It was another April fool in the month of May! How can it be possible? How did it happen in the first place? What kind of a joke is this? I left these children whole and healthy before going to work that morning!

Some women’s sexual escapades often sound stranger than fiction. Why does a particular woman seek sex all of the time, with different men losing all sense of shame? Abibat’s reason was because she thought she was fat and unattractive.