By Bunmi Sofola WHEN we were children, there were much stricter boundaries,” recalled Eriwu, a 42-year old mother of two teenage children as we discussed the vast difference of parenting in the past and how today’s parents mono-cuddle their children.  She continued: “Children did not stay up with the adults, or socialise with them, or sleep […]

By Bunmi Sofola SYLVIA admitted that her parent’s marriage and the stoic way her mummy yielded her position as the first wife to a much younger and ambitious woman prepared her for the way she handled her relationship with men.  Her story:  ‘When a man suddenly discovered he’s scaled the ladder of success faster than he’d […]

By Bunmi Sofola PREGNANCY for Dads-to-be:  Everything you need to know from Conception to Birth is a book currently making waves in the UK. Written by Adam Carpenter, it helps expectant and new dads get into the swing of childcare and gives as much as the new mothers – if not more!  According to him, becoming […]

By Bunmi Sofola JUST at what stage do you start getting cynical about love?  A few weeks ago, Jade, an old friend became irritated because her daughter’s boyfriend of 18 months didn’t want to face the reality of the death of the romance.  “He keeps on hanging around the house like a love-sick puppy”, she complained.  […]

By Bunmi Sofola As enlightened as the society is and with information technology at the finger tips of almost every-one, parents still find it difficult to discuss sex with their adult children, and most youths don’t have that much clue as to what is right and what is wrong.  So, from the etiquette of the first […]

I have heard too many stories of men dying on top of women in the past and I honestly do not want to join the statistics. I was introduced to my husband more than 10 years ago by an aunty and we have been married for some 10 years now. He is my second husband; the first left […]

By Bunmi Sofola Justus at 39,  can’t exactly remember what it was like to be poor.  Spoilt by fairly comfortable parents as the first son, he soon made his own money doing ‘business.’  A paragon of easy virtue, he is reputed to have enjoyed dalliance with a lady he picked up at the hotel/restaurant whilst […]

By Bunmi Sofola KOREDE was raised in a polygamous home and confessed he experienced none of the emotional trauma a lot of children who grew up in polygamous settings claimed they went through.  “My dad had three wives who bore him 13 children and my own mum is the middle wife.  All the children wanted for […]

By Bunmi Sofola Why do some successful women fall for cads?  This was a poser I put to Jola, a very good friend and a thorough professional who continues to reap the benefits of her labour.  Unfortunately, the same couldn’t be said for her husband.  They are both chartered accountants but Jola was lucky because she […]

By Bunmi Sofola How would you feel if your dad slept with your best friend?  It happens all of the time but it’s no fun when you’re at the receiving end.  ‘To say that my father, a great raconteur, often put on a show for my female friends would be an understatement.  From the moment they […]

By Bunmi Sofola The event I am sharing with you today, might seem hilarious on face value, but embedded in it are serious issues that confront many women who find themselves in similar situation.  The pains, through the betrayal of love and lack of support from the men, who brought them to the very ebb.  Unfortunately, […]

Situationship is what happens when intimacy arrives before intention. When emotions move in, unpack their bags, and told there is no address

By Bunmi Sofola For years, Kemi, a senior executive officer in one f the Federal ministries resisted attempts by her ministry to transfer her to the head office in Abuja.  Pulling all the strings available to her and Andy, her politician husband, she hung on to her position in Lagos until a few years ago […]

By Bunmi Sofola ANY festive period is ideal for coming up with a party you hope with serve as snare for trapping money bags.  Having a party to get a sizeable contract or two from friends of your lover seems a bit calculating, but tell them cheerily that you are having a Christmas or New Year […]

By Bunmi Sofola ISN’T it amazing what torrent of scandal a little event like being pregnant can unleash?  For the four years Lisa was married to Nekan, her husband, she tried all she could to get pregnant.  At first she thought it was due to her reproductive organs malfunctioning.  After series of tests, it was […]