Relationships

How comfortable are you with your husband’s other wives!

How comfortable are you with your husband’s other wives!

For most women, introducing another woman into the marital home would be unthinkable in spite of the polygamous marriages that are almost the norm in the society.  Fatima grew up in a polygamous setting in which she said was a happy one.  When she got married 14 years ago, she wasn’t under any illusion she […]
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Is your man taking you for granted by being a slob?

Is your man taking you for granted by being a slob?

By Bunmi Sofola I was looking at some old family photographs the other day when I realised to my horror that Jude, my husband still wears the same revolting danshiki with matching trousers that he wore 12 years ago!  Moaned Jesicca, a 49 year old medical doctor married to Jude, 53 and the owner of […]

Juggling lovers with the perfection of a magician!

Juggling lovers with the perfection of a magician!

By Bunmi Sofola A few months ago I spent a few days with a very dear friend who lives in a block of luxury flat, and noticed the occupant of the next flat to hers was new. In the past, the flat had been occupied by some noisy neighbours. It was a relief to have […]

Could it be rape if it’s with your wife?!

Could it be rape if it’s with your wife?!

WHEN did that man you married with such love and hope turn into a monster who couldn’t stick to his vow to ‘protect’ you because he’s now the one actually violating you? You hear about rape cases and how victims are viciously treated without recourse to any form of redress; without giving a thought to […]

Why you should ditch the booze when you’re pregnant!

Why you should ditch the booze when you’re pregnant!

By Bunmi Sofola IMAGINE when your pregnancy is scanned for the first time so you could see your precious baby growing in the womb, suddenly its whole body gives a shudder and the foetus appears to jump. Such a movement is known as the startle reflex; and the scan described above are from photographs from […]

Does your man have the ‘love rat’ gene?!

Does your man have the ‘love rat’ gene?!

How do you spot a love rat?  The current man in your life has virtually swept you off your feet.  He texts you all day, takes you to your favourite eatery from time to time, boys you little gifts and calls you at night because he can’t stop thinking of you!  The first time Sandra’s […]

Juggling lovers with the perfection of a magician!‘

Juggling lovers with the perfection of a magician!‘

By Bunmi Sofola A few months ago I spent a few days with a very dear friend who lives in a block of luxury flat, and noticed ante occupant of the next flat to hers was new.  In the past, the flat had been occupied by some noisy neighbours.  It was a relief to have […]

Why sex with your ex could be therapeutic!

Why sex with your ex could be therapeutic!

By Bunmi Sofola There’s no explaining the function of the heart (head?) when it comes to sex.  One minute, you’re seemingly happily married, the next you want nothing to do with your ex and head straight for the divorce court.  At the end of it all, you feel relieved.  Once in a while, you might […]

A thug in designer clothes is still a thug!

A thug in designer clothes is still a thug!

By Bunmi Sofola ANY festive period is ideal for coming up with a party you hope with serve as snare for trapping money bags. Having a party to get a sizeable contract or two from friends of your lover seems a bit calculating, but tell them cheerily that you are having a Christmas or New […]

Are polyamorous relationships too liberal?

Are polyamorous relationships too liberal?

IT’S been going on for ages, often discussed in hushed tones, a name is finally pinned to it. Polyamory. Monogamy, although still by far the most popular choice, isn’t the only option any more. In fact, more and more couples are classing themselves as polyamorous, even though many of you readers have no idea what […]

Is it wise to attend your ex-husband’s wedding?

Is it wise to attend your ex-husband’s wedding?

By Bunmi Sofola WOULD you attend your ex-husband’s wedding to his new bride even if he’s behaved like a rat?  When Angela’s marriage broke down irretrievably some five years ago, she was very bitter that she’d been left to raise their three children as a single parent. “Until that point,” she recalled, “Uzor was my whole […]