‘I regret snatching my friend’s husband’ — Reader
By Bunmi Sofola A Reader wrote: I have followed your columns way back from your Punch days when I was in the university. Most of the times, your articles are so down-to-earth they speak to me – as if you are writing about me. In one of the editions of Sunday Vanguard a few months back, […]
Your husband got best friend pregnant; would you forgive him?
It is terrible what some men can do because of the inability to control themselves. Maybe, it shouldn’t be called a lack of control, but an intentional act done to spite their wives or the women in their lives.
Your mum confessed to have killed your dad; would you forgive her?
Antonia and her brothers had just returned from the village after the burial of their late father. She thought it felt like only yesterday when the whole family including her father saw a programme on TV. There was some much love bond reflecting in all of them that she whispered a prayer of thanks.
Ending that ‘bad’ marriage should be given a serious thought
HAVE you ever regretted decisions that have reshaped your life, whether for better or for worse? At a recent get-together with a couple of friends, we became so relaxed, some of us started discussing our dead marriages.
Your brother defiled your six year old daughter, would you forgive him?
It has been five years since my brother went to jail for the crime of defilement. And I am still wondering if I can ever forgive him. It is so because he didn’t only defile a child according to the law, he committed incest with his own niece who happens to be my six year old daughter.
Your wife took a drastic action that cost your son’s life would you forgive her
Iyke did not know what to do. ‘This is just a classical case of a dilemma,’ he muttered angrily. Why would this people fix the meeting so soon? He had just been able to achieve a business feat. A formidable synergy with a multi-billion dollar company in the US of A would be the opportunity of a lifetime.
Would you forgive a brother who killed your husband?
It has been one year since the murder of my beloved husband. He was murdered by my blood brother. Yet, it feels like yesterday. Obi was a nice husband and a good father. He was my best friend and living with him for five years was the best thing that ever happened to me.
He hid his sterility for four years, would you remain in the marriage?
Anne and Ben met for the first time in church. As a worker in one of the contemporary churches in the country, she knew that she stood a good chance of finding the man of her dreams in the right ‘fold’, which she believed the church was.
Her mother swindled you, would you marry her?
The voice at the other end of the line sounded impatient, much to my chagrin. ‘Kalu, I told you that the goods would be sent to you in two weeks!’ she bawled. What was this woman trying to do? All of a sudden, a mixture of hatred and something even more morbid engulfed my very being.
How many affairs are you willing to forgive?
Even if there was a blue print for having a healthy relationship, chances are it wouldn’t work for each individual the same way. Man meets woman, a relationship develops and within weeks, you are in seventh heaven. Your man is the ‘soul mate’ you have always dreamt of – you virtually live in each other’s pockets and you can’t stop pinching yourself on how lucky you are.
Is size an issue in love?
Mary has been having telephone conversation with Jason who lives in the States. Although she hasn’t met him in person, she knew she liked him. She has heard wonderful things about him through her best friend who just moved abroad.
Lost a spouse, how long is it right to mourn?
Marriage is an institution ordained by the Almighty God. It is such that a man leaves his father and mother’s house and the woman does the same thing too. They start a unit together excluding everyone. The institution is built on trust and commitment. And it terminates when one party dies.
When failure makes you depressed
We’ve all failed at one project or the other and learnt to move on. But a lot of people have received such mighty failures that they’re just not able to shake off and the depth of despair they feel is difficult to bear. A few years back, Remi, just 24 got married. “Adam and I had been together since I was 19,” she explained.
She earns better would you marry her?
I have been out of the University for ten years without a job. Getting a job became a big deal in those years. Every advertisement I saw on the papers demanded for five years working experience.
When you drink for two, your child becomes damaged
Imagine when your pregnancy is scanned for the first time so you could see your precious baby growing in the womb, suddenly its whole body gives a shudder and the foetus appears to jump. Such a movement is known as the startle reflex, and the scan described above are from photographs from scans that were taken by Peter Hepper, a professor of psychology at Queens University, Belfast and an expert on the effects of alcohol on unborn babies.
Hubby disappears after wedding night
It is a fact that women are like flowers that withers at night time. A man on the other hand can be liken to wine, he gets better by the season and best when it is old. No wonder, the wine is best served when it is old.
