At 49, Jubril was thought to have an enviable marriage by his married friends – a 22-year partnership with beautiful Tumi who bore him three lovely children.  They met in college and were almost inseparable. Then she became a mother of three, and gradually her appearance at parties with him began to fade.  “When Jubril […]

By Yetunde Arebi Hi,  I have stated this over and over again here, women, you have to learn to pick your battles. It is not all wars that you rush out to fight. It is not all conflicts that you take up arms, simply because a man has signed some documents with you and you […]

Some months back, I noticed small amount of money had been withdrawn from my bank account when I was nowhere near a cash machine. In total, almost N190,000 was missing and there was only one person who could have taken it — my 20-year-old son who is an undergraduate. I confronted him and he admitted […]

Dear Bunmi, I’m in love with a married mother of two, though I’ve never really got married. I’ve had a live-in relationship that produced a son I admire. Don’t tell me to stop seeing this woman! I love her too much. We meet regularly and, no, we don’t rip each other’s clothes off. Very often we just sit, […]

I’ve been married for 16 years, and we have three children. I recently learnt from a family member that my husband had a secret family who lived close to her friend’s house – and that the woman had two children for my him. I didn’t really believe her because she’s naturally a vicious gossip. When […]

I am a nice, intelligent, attractive guy with a well paid job. I’m in my late 20s and would love to get married but my girlfriends have all dumped me, after accusing me of having a roving eye. I don’t know where they got the idea from, as I’ve tried to be faithful with women […]

I had a mastectomy early last year. Naturally, I was anxious about my altered appearance, but my husband reassured me that it wouldn’t matter to him. But despite his promises, he’s not touched me since the operation and can hardly bring himself to look at my scars. I’m due to have a reconstruction shortly, but […]

I’m a 28-year-old single mother of an adorable son. I’m currently involved with a man who is very nice to me and my son, and I love him. The problem is that my ex has come back into my life. He was my first true love and we were together for over four years. We […]

Man or woman, gay or straight— people generally cheat for very different reasons, experts have affirmed. A licensed marriage and family therapist Shane Birkel, LMFT, explains that it’s likely more due to the way men and women are socialized than any innate differences between them.  As of right now, some research shows that men are […]

Some few weeks back, I wrote about how a handful of senior girls are often inappropriately dressed at parties, failing to admit glamour for them has passed its sell-by-date.  A few readers were outraged by my views whilst some believed women over 50 shouldn’t ‘flash’ their boobs and legs.   “They ought to dress with the appropriate […]

By Bunmi Sofola LARA had often moaned that someone else had got the life she was supposed to have.  We were mates at the secondary school and have remained close decades after we left.  A fairly brilliant student, we were all mildly surprised when she opted for matrimony.  Within the spate of a decade, she’d […]

By Bunmi Sofola MOST times, lying with my husband watching him sleep on his back, beer belly rising and falling with each snore, he doesn’t look appetizing in the least especially with his treble chin and bald head. I am starting to find him repulsive…” Melisa looked so forlorn as she told me about the […]

A few months ago, I became friends with this great guy. Eventually, we started going out and were into heavy petting. I’ve developed serious feelings for him. We’re together all week the time, but he doesn’t want to have sex because he’s afraid of hurting our friendship. I feel like we’re in a relationship already. […]

Recently, I fell in love with a handsome banker, who I had to interact with, as I too work in a bank. We flirted outrageously and swapped phone numbers and, for months, we stayed in touch. He calls me late at night, after work, and we’d talk for hours. However, when I picked up the […]

I’m in love with a married mother of two. Although I’ve never really been married, I’ve had a live-in relationship that produced a son I admire.  Don’t tell me to stop seeing this woman! I love her too much. We meet regularly and, no, we don’t rip each other’s clothes off. Very often we just […]