My husband was made redundant by his office about five years ago. When he tried without success to get another job, he told me he was going abroad to stay with his elder brother and find work. He was about 40 then and I couldn’t stop him even if I tried. Things were rough to […]

I am getting married next year and my fiancé and I are really excited about it. The problem is, I’m really struggling to get along with my future mother-in-law. She’s always very rude to me. She tries to exclude me from any family event, and she’s now trying to meddle in our wedding plans. When […]

A few years ago, my husband left me for another woman. We were only married for four years and we had no children. I was very upset and found it easier not to tell people, because I knew I’d just start crying. My family lives in another state and I didn’t have any close friends […]

I started university this year and I really hate it; I haven’t made any real friends. My course is more difficult than I envisaged and my room-mates are all messy, and they stay up partying into the wee hours. But, most of all, I’m really homesick.  I’m very close to my family and miss them […]

I lost my husband of 20 years to cancer six months ago. Our two children are away in their various universities and I am now unbearably lonely, and feel as though life is passing me by. I’ve tried going out with friends but everyone in the area knows that I’m widowed, so I receive unwanted […]

When we got married, I agreed to stay at home with our four children. So, for the past 12 years I have been a full-time mom, which has been great. But now they’re all at school, I’m itching to go back to work, only my husband is kicking against it. It’s true I want for […]

I never said anything yet to my boyfriend, but I think he is obsessed with abnormally large breasts.  I always catch him staring at women’s chest. I have boobs that are on the small size and his attitude is making me feel inadequate. I have a good mind to ask him if he would rather […]

How many affairs should you over-look before you realise your partner is trying to send you a message by pushing you close to the edge?  About a decade ago, Adaobi was in love.  Ahmed, her man, was separated from a wife who still lived abroad and against her friends and parents’ warnings, she moved in with her superman within a few months of their getting together. 

By Bunmi Sofola At times, the joy of an encounter with an old flame could only be matched with the excitement of a new romance. Sandra, a fifty-something-year-old lecturer recently recounted how a chance meeting with an old flame turned a holiday that she thought would be hum-drummed into a never-to-be-forgotten adventure. Her Story I […]

LATELY, I’d been prompted by readers to let them know of the love lives of my two close friends, Lilian and Ini.  Well, they are fine and up to all sorts of mischief as usual.  Only a few weeks ago, I called at Lilian’s and was surprised she wasn’t in one of her mumsy house dressed.  […]

By Candida BARELY a year after she changed jobs, Abi was excited when she was picked as one of the four executives for a one-week course at a posh hotel.  “The course was an intensive one,” explained Abi, 45, “privately organised and very exhaustive.  Sitting in a classroom again was a bizarre feeling – I hadn’t […]

It stands to reason that with the spate of divorce the society now witnesses and the number of unwanted pregnancies, single parenthood has come to stay.  The sad picture is that, unlike in the old days when single parents were mostly widows who couldn’t be considered young, a lot of single parents today, male and female, are […]

By Candida IT’S never been wise to leap into a relationship on the rebound.  This Samantha found out the hard way. “I was in love with my fiancé Mike.  I met him when I started work at the company we both worked with.  He had such a warm personality that we’d hit it off straightaway. “He […]

By Bunmi Sofola When Ibidun hit the menopause, her erratic behaviour became irritating and unbearable to Peter, her husband.  She was 48 and a mother of four grown-up children. A normally bubbly woman, she became testy, snarling and crying most of the time.  “Whenever I tried to find out what the matter was, she shoved […]

By Bunmi Sofola “Tonight, once our three young children are in bed, my husband Fred and I will head upstairs together for an early night,” says Anjola, a 36-year old cosmetologist. “We might have a glass of wine each and, afterwards, give each other a massage and, chances are, we’ll make love before falling asleep in […]