By Bunmi Sofola Why do some successful women fall for cads?  This was a poser I put to Jola, a very good friend and a thorough professional who continues to reap the benefits of her labour.  Unfortunately, the same couldn’t be said for her husband.  They are both chartered accountants but Jola was lucky because […]

Last year, my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer. He’s now much better, but our sex life has deteriorated. I’m only 40 and I’ve tried to be understanding, but don’t know how much longer I can go without making love. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, is he controlling me through sex? I want things back to the […]

I am not a rich woman. As a matter of fact, as a widow in her 60s, I find it difficult to make ends meet. I vowed, when my husband died 15 years ago, that my children wouldn’t lack anything and I am glad to say three of the four children are now independent. My […]

When my friend comes to spend time with me, I pay for everything. Recently, I went to her place and she treated me shabbily. She barely cooked, and begrudged me a second piece of meat. One evening, she refused to let me have a bath because she claimed she bought water all the time. Read […]

I love my boyfriend but when he wants sex, he wants it right away. It can be when I’m about to leave for work, I’m getting ready to meet friends, or just in a hurry to get something done at home. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, will he ever propose after 19 years together? I used […]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 20 years and we have two children whom he takes full responsibility for. We’ve discussed marriage but he says with the high rate of divorce and the experience he’s had living in a polygamous home, he doesn’t want the hassle of a divorce if we ever […]

A few months ago, I found a business card with a girl’s name and phone number in my man’s wallet. It was someone in his office, and I suspected instantly what was going on. The next time he went away on his numerous business trips, I rang his usual hotel the day I knew he […]

Last year, I started a relationship with a divorced mother of two, who is over 10 years older and a woman of substance, who has helped me a lot in my career. In return, as I don’t have money to lavish on her, I help see that her kids get taken to schools, help wash […]

VERA always thumbed her nose at women who she said make a fool of themselves by running after toyboys.  If she were to have a relationship outsider her marriage, it would be with men in the same bracket as her.  So now in her sixties and her husband of over 20 years resting in his grave, […]

Early last year, I got this fantastic job as the secretary to the chairman of a pharmaceutical company. Right from the interview, he was flirting with me. Weeks after I started the job, he found excuses to keep me late or to speak to me during lunch hour. Not long after, I started staying after […]