There are many superstitious beliefs about the growth/growing of hair. These old-wives-tales have been around for so long, that most women tend to believe it hook, line and sinker!

For many years now I have been committing myself wholly to a process of inner transformation. On the one hand, it has been incredibly intense as I’ve opened to uncover painful memories and deeply-rooted belief systems. On the other hand, I am experiencing ever greater freedom, clarity and peace.

Everything has its life span; even the very lives we live on earth. We may live forever in Heaven but as long as we are here on earth, there is a time to be born and a time to die. Everything that will happen to you as a person will also happen within that lifespan. Who knows, for me, it may be the last time I will be writing, but I pray not. Or, for you, it may be the last time that you will be reading, but I pray not too. For some of us, this may be our last Christmas and yet for others, it will be their very first.

How often we humans go through endless contortions to escape trials and challenges! We try to run away. We look for someone to rescue us. We pray that God will miraculously cut short the difficulty. But what if a struggle is serving some purpose? I found a surprising story recently, one that stimulated some deep thinking on this very question. See what you think. . . .

I have four sons from Lawrenta Omono my only wife, and I have fears for them when it comes to “Time To Get Married”. Those fears come from my experiences in my Counseling Room. I sit back and I listen to females tell me about how they have slept with a minimum of 25 Men, and what comes to my mind is, that means when she is getting married, her own husband who should be the only one to have slept with her if we go by God’s original plan will probably be the 31st Man sleeping with her, and I wonder what is left of the wholeness that she should have brought to her husband in Marriage. If you have slept with only 3 Men in your life as a woman, I can assure you that that is enough to visit a counselor and find out if all is still well with you, because every time we move away from God’s original plan, we pay for it in ways beyond our comprehension.

This week a reader emailed me, “I have found my life purpose. I have a clear picture of my dreams, but it is not an easy path. I feel discouraged. Some days are so difficult. What do I do?”

Mother Theresa once said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Isn’t that the truth? When we get caught up in frustration, disappointment and anger with others for the way they treat us, we have very little energy left to love. This week I’d like to focus on seeing others through […]

A cataract is present when the normally clear lens of the eye becomes cloudy. Vision through a cloudy lens is like looking through a foggy window. Clouded vision impairs eyesight by making it difficult to read and see your surroundings. Cataracts commonly affect distance vision and cause problems with glare. Clouding of the lens is a normal part of the aging process and most individuals above the age of 65 have some degree of clouding. Above the age of 75 a majority of individuals have cataracts significant enough to impair vision. Most cataracts develop gradually over time and don’t usually affect eyesight in the early stages but visual disturbances occur as the clouding progresses. In the early stages of cataract development, visual problems can be alleviated with stronger lighting and prescription eyeglasses. At some point when visual impairment can jeopardize normal lifestyle, surgery may be required. Cataract removal is one of the safest, most effective and most common surgical procedures.

I AM CHEATING ON MY UNFAITHFUL HUSBAND!

Is there a person in your life you think needs changing? Almost all of us would answer “Yes” to that question. This week several of my clients have been facing struggles with people whose attitudes, words and actions they believe need major adjustments. As I worked with them, I gained valuable clarity for myself.

Behind the scenes each week there is a special person who helps me edit my work. She has been there since I started this column. She adds tremendous value and depth to these weekly articles. Her name is Gayle Dulcey. Gayle is one of the most highly educated people I know a former high school […]

You find yourself having a “bad day.” Things are just not going right. You feel frustrated, uneasy, and even miserable. Do you have to continue to spiral further into difficulty or can you shift your energy to feel better? You have more power to think and feel well than you might yet understand. Whether we […]

Just before the New Year I wrote an article asking you a question, “What is possible for you and Nigeria?” I wanted to encourage each of us to look closely at our mind set as we entered 2010. I hoped to help us clarify our commitment to creating the personal and national progress we each long for. Our mental set regarding what is or isn’t possible determines the way we spend our resources.

If you have been reading my column you have heard me mention before that when zwe were children the adults in our lives (parents, teachers, pastors and others) played a major role in telling us who we are. The image of ourselves we develop and carry is based on what we were told repeatedly during our formative years.

Are you being honest with yourself?
I’d like us to take an even deeper look at honesty this week. We want others to be honest with us yet we often overlook one crucial factor: we forget that we often deceive others and more important we often deceive ourselves. So how can we become more honest with ourselves?