Speaking and Writing with Ruth Oji

The courtesy that’s beyond please and thank you, by Ruth Oji

The courtesy that’s beyond please and thank you, by Ruth Oji

Were you taught in primary school to use the magic words? Most people think courtesy means saying “please” and “thank you”, holding doors for others, not interrupting when others speak, remembering the social graces your parents taught you, and the etiquette that makes interactions flow smoothly and signals you were raised right. Well, that’s not wrong, […]
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Communication and emotional intelligence as pathways to executive presence, by Ruth Oji

Communication and emotional intelligence as pathways to executive presence, by Ruth Oji

True, you have the position Is that, however, all that earns you influence in the corporate arena? Far from it! Executives who inspire confidence and loyalty are those who embody executive presence—the ability to project confidence, credibility, and connection in every interaction. In my last column, I highlighted the importance of vocal authority and physical comportment. […]

Email etiquette in the digital age: Beyond grammar and punctuation, by Ruth Oji

Email etiquette in the digital age: Beyond grammar and punctuation, by Ruth Oji

Last week, I received an email that made me cringe. The grammar was perfect, the punctuation flawless, but the tone was so harsh it could have frozen coffee. The sender—a department head—had technically followed every rule we’d discussed in previous columns, yet the message landed like a slap across the face. This got me thinking: we’ve […]

The Power of Punctuation – Small Marks but Big Impact, by Ruth Oji

The Power of Punctuation – Small Marks but Big Impact, by Ruth Oji

You’ve probably heard the joke about the panda who “eats, shoots and leaves” versus one who “eats shoots and leaves.” One comma changes a violent panda into a vegetarian one. Funny? Yes. But in the real world, punctuation mistakes can cost you credibility, opportunities, and even relationships. Good punctuation can go a long way when it […]

Must vs Have To – The Authority Behind Your Words (1)

Must vs Have To – The Authority Behind Your Words (1)

I must finish this report tonight” carries a very different weight from “I have to finish this report tonight.” Both express obligation, yet they reveal fundamentally different sources of motivation and authority. Understanding this distinction can change how you communicate leadership, manage relationships, and present yourself in professional settings. These two expressions of necessity might appear […]

Why your words matter more than you think, by Ruth Oji

Why your words matter more than you think, by Ruth Oji

In a world where artificial intelligence can write essays and chatbots can hold conversations, you might wonder: does human communication skill still matter? The answer is a resounding yes. While technology handles routine communication tasks, the ability to persuade and inspire through authentic human expression has become our most valuable professional currency. The Communication Paradox of […]

Why your next breakthrough might come from saying nothing, by Ruth Oji

Why your next breakthrough might come from saying nothing, by Ruth Oji

In our fast-paced and hyperconnected world, silence has become an endangered species. We live in a culture that worships the quick comeback, the instant response, or the rapid-fire exchange. In different spaces, be it in boardrooms, classrooms, newsrooms or buka shops, we’ve convinced ourselves that thinking time is wasted time. But what if we’ve got […]

Shall vs Should – When Grammar Meets Etiquette, by Ruth Oji

Shall vs Should – When Grammar Meets Etiquette, by Ruth Oji

“Shall we begin?” sounds formal and old-fashioned to many ears today, while “Should we start?” feels natural and contemporary. Yet both expressions serve similar functions, highlighting one of English’s most intriguing modal verb pairs. Understanding when to use “shall” versus “should” isn’t just about grammar. It’s about navigating social expectations, cultural contexts, and professional appropriateness. […]

Can vs Could – The Small Words with Big Impact, by Ruth Oji

Can vs Could – The Small Words with Big Impact, by Ruth Oji

Picture this: You’re crafting an important email to your boss. Do you write “Can you review this proposal?” or “Could you review this proposal?” That tiny difference might seem insignificant, but it could determine whether your request is received warmly or creates unintended friction. Welcome to the fascinating world of modal verbs, where “can” and “could” wield […]

Will vs. Would: Mastering future expressions in professional writing, by Ruth Oji

Will vs. Would: Mastering future expressions in professional writing, by Ruth Oji

A journalist friend recently confided in me his confusion about when to use “will” versus “would” in his reporting. “I know they’re both about the future,” he said, “but I’m never sure which one sounds right.” His honest admission sparked this week’s column because mastering these two words can transform your professional writing from uncertain to […]