Relationships

Husbands who believe they’re goaded into being violent!

Husbands who believe they’re goaded into being violent!

By Bunmi Sofola WILL spousal violence ever go away?  Two readers sent in their views recently.  One is a married mother of three and the other is a bewildered husband who’s been physically and mentally abused by his wife.  “My husband and I were together for nearly ten years,” wrote Ibi, “and he was a […]
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Troubledeysleepyangagowakeam: Dear Bunmi, Hubby’s secret second family

Troubledeysleepyangagowakeam: Dear Bunmi, Hubby’s secret second family

I’ve been married for 16 years, and we have three children. I recently learnt from a family member that my husband had a secret family who lived close to her friend’s house – and that the woman had two children for my him. I didn’t really believe her because she’s naturally a vicious gossip. When […]

Wahalurr: Dear Bunmi, Why do girls think I’m fickle?

Wahalurr: Dear Bunmi, Why do girls think I’m fickle?

I am a nice, intelligent, attractive guy with a well paid job. I’m in my late 20s and would love to get married but my girlfriends have all dumped me, after accusing me of having a roving eye. I don’t know where they got the idea from, as I’ve tried to be faithful with women […]

Insidelife: Dear Bunmi, Hubby resents my cancer scars

Insidelife: Dear Bunmi, Hubby resents my cancer scars

I had a mastectomy early last year. Naturally, I was anxious about my altered appearance, but my husband reassured me that it wouldn’t matter to him. But despite his promises, he’s not touched me since the operation and can hardly bring himself to look at my scars. I’m due to have a reconstruction shortly, but […]

Breakfastloading: Dear Bunmi, Can I trust this returned boyfriend?

Breakfastloading: Dear Bunmi, Can I trust this returned boyfriend?

I’m a 28-year-old single mother of an adorable son. I’m currently involved with a man who is very nice to me and my son, and I love him. The problem is that my ex has come back into my life. He was my first true love and we were together for over four years. We […]

How to know if your man is cheating on you

How to know if your man is cheating on you

Man or woman, gay or straight— people generally cheat for very different reasons, experts have affirmed. A licensed marriage and family therapist Shane Birkel, LMFT, explains that it’s likely more due to the way men and women are socialized than any innate differences between them.  As of right now, some research shows that men are […]