Most men think they’re great in bed,” observed Jane, a marriage counsellor. “But much as we love our men, a five minute quickie before lights out really doesn’t get the earth moving! It’s not that they lack enthusiasm. They’re just being typical male—always ready for action. The problem is their technique—most of them don’t have any. Foreplay is clumsy and hurried, and as for the s3x, it’s always wham, bam…was that it?

Dear Bunmi, I’ve come to fear for our lives as he’s also been violent whenever I refuse to make love with him. He said he has tried getting help, but I haven’t seen that reflected in his behaviour

FOR years I was involved with a man who verbally and physically abused me. I finally had the courage to leave him but, because of his nastiness, I seem to resent men in a big way and they tend to hurt and use me. I am now in my late 20s and recently met a […]

“Have a social life that is not dramatic and don’t look at men you meet as potential lovers. Flirt with men and try and discover yourself all over again”

Dear Bunmi, I thought she would rebuff me when I eventually had the courage to approach her. But I was quite surprised at her experience. It was, therefore, a delight making love to her