AFTER I had my daughter, my vaginal opening was quite large and a year later, it’s still the same. When my baby’s father and I parted company soon after the birth, he told me it wasn’t as nice to have intercourse with me any more; that the grip was no longer there when he was inside […]

I got married over 12 years ago to a man who was on the plum side.  I didn’t mind this too much as I wasn’t slim either. Unfortunately, he’s piled on a lot of weight since we got married and I hate the way he looks. I’m not nasty to him about his weight because this […]

GENERALLY speaking, these days a taste for bossy women is something of taboo.  Men can openly desire a woman of any size or sexual persuasion, however, weird or wonderful, but not few would admit that they have a thing about bossy women because they fear being labelled a wimp!  “Why would any sane man be […]

By Bunmi Sofola Imagine when your pregnancy is scanned for the first time so you could see your precious baby growing in the womb, suddenly its whole body gives a shudder and the foetus appears to jump.  Such a movement is known as the startle reflex; and the scan described above are from photographs from […]

I think my boyfriend has a drink problem but he insists he doesn’t. I love him so much and we seem made for each other – until he gets drunk. I am 26 and he’s 28. We’ve been together for a year and I stay at his flat most weekends. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, he’s never had […]

After 26 years of marriage, I have fallen in love for the first time.  I want to be with my lover all the time but that seems like an impossible dream. My husband and I are both 52. For the past few years he’s had problems performing in bed. Sex became a chore, so we gave up. […]

By Ada Osadebe Love, they say, can find one anywhere. So, it is not out of place for employees to get involved in romantic relationships with their colleagues in an office environment. Office romance can lead to a situationship and in some cases, lead to long-term relationships and even marriage, but they can also result […]

WHEN I first met my husband, I loved his strong character – he seemed so confident and assertive.  But over the nine years we’ve been married, he’s turned into an awful bully.  I have to do everything the way he wants them done or he makes my life hell. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, my aunty’s husband […]

I am 52 and my husband is five years older.  Our sex life used to be average, but lately, he finds it difficult to sustain an erection – sometimes he can’t even get one in the first place. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, he boasted, but can he deliver? As it is now, we have not […]

Early in the year, a new man joined the firm I worked with and we fell in love. He has a position slightly senior to mine and is a very witty and affectionate man.  We kissed but he never seemed to be more amorous. I eventually asked him why and he sheepishly confessed he’s never had […]