Hubby finds it difficult to go off drugs
Dear Bunmi, My husband of over 10 years has been taking hard drugs for sometime now. I can’t express how it has damaged my family; it is just traumatic. I have three children to raise and money is the main problem. My husband disappears for days, tells lies and swindles his friends and relations. I’ve come […]
He wants to know of past lovers
Dear Bunmi, I’ve been with my current partner for over a year now and, lately, he’d told me about major relationships he’d had. He said this was in case I heard differently from friends. He also wants me to tell him about boyfriends I’ve had in the past. Well, I’ve had plenty, especially when I […]
Should I get him deported from abroad?
Dear Bunmi, My husband was made redundant by his office about five years ago. When he tried without success to get another job, he told me he was going abroad to stay with his elder brother and find work. He was about 40 then and I couldn’t stop him, even if I tried. Things were […]
His wife wants me to visit
Dear Bunmi, Early last year, I got this fantastic job as the personal assistant of the chairman of a pharmaceutical company. Right from the interview, he was flirting with me. Weeks after I started the job, he found excuses to keep me late or to speak to me at lunch hour. Not long after, I […]
Hubby spikes my drinks
Dear Bunmi, My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have children. Recently, he’s become more and more obsessed with sex – he wants it all of the time and I’ve just found out he sometimes spikes my drink to make me hornier in bed. I still love him, but what can I […]
Excessive hair growth embarrasses me!
For quite a while now I’ve got what looks like a dark moustache on my upper lip and, recently, I’ve started to sprout hairs on the chin and my chest. Not exactly ‘magnet’ when you want to pull a man, you’ll agree. I’ve tried shaving, but it seems to encourage the growth. Are there lasting remedies? […]
At 28, still a virgin and no girlfriend
Dear Bunmi, I’m a 28-year-old man and have not had any sexual experiences at all. I’m a graduate and have a good social life with great friends, both male and female. But finding a girlfriend seems impossible. Going over to women I don’t know and trying to chat them up seems both scary and embarrassing. What […]
The humiliating experience of being jilted
Dear Bunmi, I NEED help and I need it badly! Four years ago, I met and fell in love with my brother’s friend who was then a medical student. I was a nurse at the teaching hospital where he was based. He was the greatest lover I ever had and I was, and still am, in […]
Can my cooking lure her to bed?
Dear Bunmi, My girlfriend and I have very healthy love-making appetite – and she really gives me pleasure. But I’m greedy and believe I could get more out of her. I’m a good cook and have been wondering lately if aphrodisiacs really work. If they do, what can I cook for her to whet her appetite […]
Hubby redefines adultery
Dear Bunmi, Is it adultery if a married man goes out once a week with a woman who is also married? My husband swears no love-making is involved and that he and his secretary are just ‘good friends’. He says adultery means sex between a married person and a single person. What is your own definition? […]
Can having an older father damage a child’s health?
A growing body of researchers is showing men who delay fatherhood are putting their children’s health at risk every bit as much as women who decide to delay motherhood until they are 40s. New studies suggest that children born to older men may be at raised risk of a string of genetic disorders and diseases, including autism, […]
