Dear Bunmi

The shock of reading about the ‘other woman’ claiming to be the wife!

The shock of reading about the ‘other woman’ claiming to be the wife!

By Bunmi Sofola As Nikky made her way to her office that fateful Monday morning, she saw a group of some female members of staff clustering round the photo copiers and chattering excitedly.  When they saw her, the silence was eerie, and instead of scurrying off to their seats, they looked at her with defiance. […]
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Dear Bunmi, my daughter’s father’s better equipped to raise her

Dear Bunmi, my daughter’s father’s better equipped to raise her

I’m facing what, to me, is a heartbreaking dilemma. I have a five-year-old daughter whom I love so much, but I separated from her father over two years ago. We were never married, but we lived together before the break-up. He has now gotten married and done so well in his job that he lives […]

Dear Bunmi, I was dumped for the flimsiest excuse!

Dear Bunmi, I was dumped for the flimsiest excuse!

I move in with my fiancé as soon as we got engaged. That was some two years ago. Shortly after, I discovered he had another affair going and I was heart-broken. Fortunately, we worked through the problem and were looking forward to getting married. A few months ago, I noticed signs of another affair – […]

 Dear Bunmi, now he sees me as a friend!

 Dear Bunmi, now he sees me as a friend!

I had a good friendly relationship with an old school friend and, one evening, after we’d had a few drinks, we started larking about and I blurted it out that I really fancied him. Things progressed from there and we spent the evening getting a bit more than friendly. You can then imagine how embarrassed […]

Dear Bunmi, she wanted love-making with me, not marriage

Dear Bunmi, she wanted love-making with me, not marriage

I lost my wife a few years ago in an unfortunate motor accident and had made up my mind to re-marry. We were married for over 20 years and she was a good mother to our three boys. Late last year, I was introduced to a divorced lady at a close friend’s birthday party, and […]

Dear Bunmi, he boasted, but can he deliver?

Dear Bunmi, he boasted, but can he deliver?

I am in my mid-30s and a divorced mother of two. My marriage broke up because I could no longer condone my ex’s constant infidelity. I have a good job and own a flat. The problem is my current partner. I met him last year and he boasted about his erotic conquests right from the […]

#Echoke: Dear Bunmi, I want him as a lover not friend 

#Echoke: Dear Bunmi, I want him as a lover not friend 

A few months ago, I became friends with this great guy. Eventually, we started going out and were into heavy petting. I’ve developed serious feelings for him. We’re together all week the time, but he doesn’t want to have sex because he’s afraid of hurting our friendship. I feel like we’re in a relationship already. […]

Dear Bunmi, why is he playing with my emotions?

Dear Bunmi, why is he playing with my emotions?

Recently, I fell in love with a handsome banker, who I had to interact with, as I too work in a bank. We flirted outrageously and swapped phone numbers and, for months, we stayed in touch. He calls me late at night, after work, and we’d talk for hours. However, when I picked up the […]

#wahalabelikebicycle: Dear Bunmi, I’m love with a married mom 

#wahalabelikebicycle: Dear Bunmi, I’m love with a married mom 

I’m in love with a married mother of two. Although I’ve never really been married, I’ve had a live-in relationship that produced a son I admire.  Don’t tell me to stop seeing this woman! I love her too much. We meet regularly and, no, we don’t rip each other’s clothes off. Very often we just […]

Dear Bunmi, marriage not as exciting as I thought

Dear Bunmi, marriage not as exciting as I thought

I got married early last year, because I was pregnant. I love my husband and daughter, but marriage is not as interesting as I thought it would be. We both have good jobs and my mom helps in looking after the child when I’m away in the office. I also have a fairly well behaved […]

Dear Bunmi, afraid my family won’t like her

Dear Bunmi, afraid my family won’t like her

For nine months now, I’ve had a relationship with a girl, but I still haven’t introduced her to my friends or family. The reason is that I know they won’t consider her good enough for me. They’re used to seeing me with stunning women and this girl’s a bit fat and unsophisticated. She’s also a […]