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An old flame and excitement of new romance

An old flame and excitement of new romance

By Bunmi Sofola At times, the joy of an encounter with an old flame could only be matched with the excitement of a new romance. Sandra, a fifty-something-year-old lecturer recently recounted how a chance meeting with an old flame turned a holiday that she thought would be hum-drummed into a never-to-be-forgotten adventure. Her Story I […]
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Dear Bunmi, hubby thought I couldn’t get back on my feet

Dear Bunmi, hubby thought I couldn’t get back on my feet

I am a married woman of 43 with four children. I used to be the Legal Secretary of a company, until I was edged out in a bitter boardroom brawl. As to be expected my confidence took a bashing, on top of which my savings dwindled. At first, I had the sympathy of my husband. […]

The shock of reading about the ‘other woman’ claiming to be the wife!

The shock of reading about the ‘other woman’ claiming to be the wife!

By Bunmi Sofola As Nikky made her way to her office that fateful Monday morning, she saw a group of some female members of staff clustering round the photo copiers and chattering excitedly.  When they saw her, the silence was eerie, and instead of scurrying off to their seats, they looked at her with defiance. […]

Dear Bunmi, he lied he no longer loved his wife

Dear Bunmi, he lied he no longer loved his wife

I’m 45 and a divorced mother of two teenage children. Three years ago, I met this man at a wedding and he told me straightaway he was a married man. Despite this, we carried on seeing each other, as I felt safe with him, knowing the relationship wouldn’t go anywhere. He confided in me about […]

Dear Bunmi, did my husband father her child?

Dear Bunmi, did my husband father her child?

YEARS back, my husband had an affair with one of our daughter’s friends. The girl, who was married at the time, became pregnant and had a little girl who is now an adult. Over the years, this girl divorced her first husband, remarried, then divorced again. Now she lives with a new man who doesn’t […]

Dear Bunmi, pregnant at 14!

Dear Bunmi, pregnant at 14!

I’ve just discovered that my eldest daughter, who is 14, is pregnant. I’ve always brought her up to know the importance of safe sex, in spite of whatever sex education she must have been taught in school. As to be expected, I am devastated. I didn’t even realise she and her boyfriend, 16, were having […]