Dear Bunmi, why is he always texting in the toilet?
I CURRENTLY live with my boyfriend of 10 months and I never thought he would cheat on me – I know we love each other deeply. But he recently came back from a three-week course where he said he got friendly with a female delegate from another company. I thought nothing of this. But one […]
Being a successful cougar is an art!
COUGAR’ is a sophisticated word introduced to the dating scene a few years back. A cougar, aka Puma, aka American mountain lion is a fierce-looking animal who stalks its prey relentlessly. When it eventually over-powers the prey, the cougar tears it to pieces, devours it ferociously and licks its lips with satisfaction at the end […]
Dear Bunmi, he can’t handle his booze
I think my boyfriend has a drink problem but he insists he doesn’t. I love him so much and we seem made for each other – until he gets drunk. I am 26 and he’s 28. We’ve been together for a year and I stay at his flat most weekends. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, he’s never had […]
Dear Bunmi, should I take this ‘break’ from my loveless marriage?
After 26 years of marriage, I have fallen in love for the first time. I want to be with my lover all the time but that seems like an impossible dream. My husband and I are both 52. For the past few years he’s had problems performing in bed. Sex became a chore, so we gave up. […]
Dear Bunmi, hubby turned into a violent bully
WHEN I first met my husband, I loved his strong character – he seemed so confident and assertive. But over the nine years we’ve been married, he’s turned into an awful bully. I have to do everything the way he wants them done or he makes my life hell. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, my aunty’s husband […]
Dear Bunmi, is my husband loosing his libido?
I am 52 and my husband is five years older. Our sex life used to be average, but lately, he finds it difficult to sustain an erection – sometimes he can’t even get one in the first place. Read Also: Dear Bunmi, he boasted, but can he deliver? As it is now, we have not […]
Dear Bunmi, my aunty’s husband is too demanding
I am currently studying to be a trained teacher at a college of education. My parents are not very well off, so my aunty agreed for me to stay with her as her house is very close to the college. Not long after I moved in with her, her husband started toasting me. Read Also: #wahalabelikebicycle: […]
Why can’t older women flaunt their sex appeal?
By Candida Some few weeks back, I wrote about how a handful of senior girls are often inappropriately dressed at parties, failing to admit glamour for them has passed its sell-by-date. A few readers were outraged by my views whilst some believed women over 50 shouldn’t ‘flash’ their boobs and legs. “They ought to dress with the […]
Put your wife down at your peril!
By Bunmi Sofola LARA had often moaned that someone else had got the life she was supposed to have. We were mates at the secondary school and have remained close decades after we left. A fairly brilliant student, we were all mildly surprised when she opted for matrimony. Within the spate of a decade, she’d not […]
Dear Bunmi, her fiance made a pass at me
Last Christmas, I stayed over with one of my friends and slept on her sofa. Next thing I knew, her boyfriend was leaning over me and kissing me. Of course, I pushed him away – but ever since, he’s been calling me and texting me, asking for us to meet up. And once, when I […]
Dear Bunmi, my man is a control freak
I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now and I really believe he’s my soul mate. He loves me and treats me like a princess. The only problem is that he’s very jealous. I dare not keep in touch with male friends as it’s just not worth the interrogation. Socialising with men even in […]
Dear Bunmi, why is he spending so much time with his widowed sister-in-law?
Since my husband became close to his sister-in-law, I’ve felt very insecure. Her husband (my husband’s brother) sadly passed away about a year ago, and since then my husband has bent over backwards to help her – he literally jumps into action when she calls. At first I thought it was incredibly kind of him […]
Dear Bunmi, I feel like a fool having fancy wedding!
My wedding that took months to plan because I wanted a lavish one now looks like a sham! Almost as soon as we came back from our honeymoon, words started filtering in that my husband was a chronic womanizer. I didn’t get a whiff of it until a friend of one of his girlfriends asked […]
Dear Bunmi, my daughter’s father’s better equipped to raise her
I’m facing what, to me, is a heartbreaking dilemma. I have a five-year-old daughter whom I love so much, but I separated from her father over two years ago. We were never married, but we lived together before the break-up. He has now gotten married and done so well in his job that he lives […]
Dear Bunmi, I was dumped for the flimsiest excuse!
I move in with my fiancé as soon as we got engaged. That was some two years ago. Shortly after, I discovered he had another affair going and I was heart-broken. Fortunately, we worked through the problem and were looking forward to getting married. A few months ago, I noticed signs of another affair – […]
Dear Bunmi, now he sees me as a friend!
I had a good friendly relationship with an old school friend and, one evening, after we’d had a few drinks, we started larking about and I blurted it out that I really fancied him. Things progressed from there and we spent the evening getting a bit more than friendly. You can then imagine how embarrassed […]
