Dear Bunmi, My boyfriend works in a bank and often goes to the office on Saturday mornings to catch up on some paper work. As soon as he leaves, however, I sneak off to his dad’s side of the house and we always have great sex.

Dear Bunmi, My partner is really getting fed up with the lack of intimacy in our relationship, because he knew I didn’t even enjoy it the few times we tried. How can I get my libido back?

By Bunmi Sofola ISN’T it amazing what torrent of scandal a little event like being pregnant can unleash? For the four years Lisa was married to Nekan, her husband, she tried all she could to get pregnant. At first she thought it was due to her reproductive organs malfunctioning. After series of tests, it was […]

IT is a sad fact that we can’t get all we want in a partner in just one package, making a chunk of women to choose a husband for ‘sensible’ reasons – momentarily forgetting the passion of the hot lovers they’d had in the past.  Why is it that men who are studs seldom make […]

“A few months back, I entered an enjoyable part-time relationship with a man who lives outside the state. Every few weeks, he comes to Lagos to see me his ‘naughty secret’.”   

By Bunmi Sofola YOU get to a crossroads in your life and the road you decide to take could shape your life for ever – for better or worse.  Some 20 years ago, Jennifer, a dentist, had an affair which broke up her marriage to a man she had fallen in love with since they […]

By Bunmi Sofola New research have confirmed that single women have fewer orgasms, while their male counterparts have the most.  According to one of the researchers, having an orgasm is more like running a marathon than a sprint, but for many women, it is uphill terrain.  That when it comes to orgasms, women are still […]

Most men think they’re great in bed,” observed Jane, a marriage counsellor. “But much as we love our men, a five minute quickie before lights out really doesn’t get the earth moving! It’s not that they lack enthusiasm. They’re just being typical male—always ready for action. The problem is their technique—most of them don’t have any. Foreplay is clumsy and hurried, and as for the s3x, it’s always wham, bam…was that it?

Dear Bunmi, I’ve come to fear for our lives as he’s also been violent whenever I refuse to make love with him. He said he has tried getting help, but I haven’t seen that reflected in his behaviour

FOR years I was involved with a man who verbally and physically abused me. I finally had the courage to leave him but, because of his nastiness, I seem to resent men in a big way and they tend to hurt and use me. I am now in my late 20s and recently met a […]