When a man is depressed and is feeling down, his testosterone’s low too – and decreased sex drive is a common side effect of many anti-depressants, making it a little bit of a lose-lose lust situation. 

“For close to two years, I tried all I could to get the family together again, but my wife was adamant. In the meantime, the meals I ate were horrible because, in fairness to her, my wife was a smashing cook.

The irritating woman was predictable too. Sitting with her usual sufferance at the breakfast table, she shot daggers at Amina, who was now taking her time to plop her mother-in-law’s breakfast on the table. 

An excuse for us senior girls to let it rip without any disapproving male glare. Any man that showed up (and there were very few of them) just dropped their wives, craned their necks suspiciously through the car windows to see if they could peep into the garden where the party was held, before reluctantly speeding off.

Florence sat next to me in the car and showed me a hotel room key.  “You should have left that at the reception”, I told her. “What if you lose it”, “It’s not my key”, she whispered into my ears.  “It’s the key to Eric’s room”. My eyes widened.  So soon?  “He wants me to go and wait for him in his room”, she continued excitedly. 

So I went, bounded up the stairs to her bedroom and opened the door. I watched transfixed as I saw this man’s bum in the air making frantic love to the mother my child!  When she saw me, her eyes widened, but she didn’t say anything. I went back downstairs and waited. 

It made for more interesting `work’ in my eyes. So when a man in his 60s got in touch with me, I turned up at his house as he’s recently been widowed. He confessed, its been years since he had sex since his wife’s illness put paid to that. 

“When I was pregnant with my other child, my six-year-old then watched in awe as my body grew and changed.  He asked loads of questions which I happily answered. I think being familiar with a woman’s body from a young age will lead him to be respectful towards women as he grows older.

As bad as the economy is, there are tons of people who regard broken down gadgets with distaste and either give them away or toss them into the dustbin instead of bothering to repair them.  But what happens if your relationship doesn’t live up to your expectation?  Do you try to fix it or do you simply cast it aside and maybe look for a better alternative?

No surprising really, since they belong to the same gender as the predators, we want them to protect us from. And if these men are not raping unwilling victims, they’re scheming to let loose their raping libido between the sheets of vulnerable women. 

To him, I was a challenge. He’d obviously lusted after me in our student days but he wasn’t my type, so I ignored him.  Now it seemed a bit of a triumph for him the way we were sleeping together.

Later, two words kept playing on my mind – open marriage. What kind of a relationship was that exactly?  What did it really mean?  How could his wife let him make love to other women?  What exactly is in all this for me?

I was pleased that we had a lot of things to talk about. At the end of the evening, I was in lust!  Though it took a lot of effort for me to stop him from coming into my flat, I wished I had.

She then asked one of her daughters to find out who the little boy was. The daughter shrugged and told her mother they would discuss the matter later. That she knew who the boy was.

After the initial shock, he said hello.  He then looked me up and down and smirked, `Hmm, looks like you’ve put on a bit of weight…” The girl sticking to his side was tall, slim and well-turned out!  I was dumbstruck by his hostility and just stood there with my mouth hanging open. Afterwards, I thought of all these witty replies I should have given … But what good were they after the event?”