Dear Bunmi,

Like the average woman, I’ve had my share of lovers and now wish to settle down. I thought I’d met ‘the one’ in my current boyfriend, but the problem is that he’s excessively jealous.

Whatever we do in bed, he furiously demands to know who else I’ve done it with. He says it’s because he loves me.

Things have got to the point that I’ve lost my spontaneity when it comes to having sex with him. Is he right for me?

Jade,

By e-mail.

Dear Jade,

It’s understandable that a new partner may worry about exes. But these men you’ve had in your past are not part of your relationship now.

If this man really loves you, he’d accept you for who you are and what you’ve got. You deserve better.

How would he feel if you kept on at him about his exes? Men like him don’t change.