BISOLA, a divorced mother of two boys was having a good time at “her best friend’s 40th birthday party when James made a play for “her.”I wasn’t really looking for romance,” she said.

Considering the chaos of family life, you might imagine this to be a special occasion but we have sex practically every night. Intimacy is a huge part of our 14-year relationship,” the glue that bonds our marriage together. Having three children is no excuse for letting your love life dwindle”.

WHILE some wives hang on to a marriage despite abuse bothering on ‘intimate terrorism’, quite a few who value their pride draw the line on how much they can take from a marriage before packing their bags – children and all. “One rainy day seven years ago,I recalled Freida, a hugely successful business woman, “an amateur detective mission I’d set myself came to fruition. I had amassed the clues and every- shred of evidence. I was closing in on the slut who was sleeping with my husband.

MOTHERS certainly know best no matter how old their children. Eccua, a younger friend, paid a visit to her mum some few months back, virtually bending her ears with tales of her husband’s latest escapades.

AUGUSTA is in her 60s, middle class and seemingly contented except for the torn in her flesh – the destruction of her daughter’s self-worth by the monster she was married to. Here, she tells her story:

A spouse strays and a marriage of many years hits the rocks. Yet a lot or marriages tagged ‘hopeless’ have been known to defy the odds when the estranged couples reunite. What makes a marriage work the second time around?

Dear Bunmi, My husband and I have been going through a bad patch recently and I’ve been getting comfort in the arms of his brother. I saw him as a great friend, and nothing else. To my surprise, he tried to get fresh with me a few days ago. He said he was dying to […]

We’ve been married for quite a while and have two children. Lately, however, my husband’s been having problems maintaining an erection.

My 25th birthday is round the corner and I’m thinking of having a fairly big one.

Mention the word ‘bottom power’ and what comes to mind is the picture of a ruthless ambitious woman, ready to sleep her way to the top. And it doesn’t matter who with. Amanda, now in her 40s, was not born poor, so had no excuse all those years for falling for Sam, a man well above her reach.

Most people want to meet Mr. or Miss Right”, said Jare a 30-year old single mother of one. “Most people in their youth dream of one day making a commitment to one person. When they do, they don’t then leave the marriage because they do not respect it, can’t stand living with an unfaithful partner or because their partner is drinking or spending the house-keeping money on current fashion.

It is a fact that a lot of women have dreamt of being skinny at some point in their lives, staring at pictures of impossibly slim models, wondering how different their lives could be if only they looked like these models.

THE amount the average woman spends to look glamorous these days could make the average husband bankrupt for the rest of his life! Hakeem, a spare parts dealer and in his 40s is a self-made man.

It was an exclusive 50th birthday party that boasted the best foods on the menu down to exotic canapé and choice wine and champagne. However, by the time desert was served, Veronica, 36, had changed from the polite, friendly lady who had initially charmed other guests, into an insulting and aggressive loud mouth. The reason? After guzzling a few glasses of Chablis, Veronica, a beautician, who runs an impressive salon insists she wasn’t drunk – but instead, had suffered a bad physical reaction to white wine. And like a growing band of women, she has sworn off it ever since.

“I believe it is totally unrealistic for any woman to be expected to feel love for a child she hadn’t carried through pregnancy and brought into the world”. Declares Serah, a 48-year old school proprietress, six years into a second marriage to Nathan. They both had two children each from their previous marriage. She continues: “If you haven’t cared for them when they were helpless babies, or kissed a toddler’s graze better, how can you be expected to love them the same way as your own flesh and blood?