How to handle the ‘teenage demon’ when it visits your children!
By Bunmi Sofola When Sussie’s son came on his first log vacation from the university a couple of years ago, he came with a handful of friends. In days, they’d eaten Sussie out of home and her stock of lager and liquor had virtually disappeared. But the lad was growing to adulthood, Sussie had reasoned, and […]
Facts your son needs to know about handling a woman
By Bunmi Sofola As enlightened as the society is and with information technology at the finger tips of almost every-one, parents still find it difficult to discuss sex with their adult children, and most youths don’t have that much clue as to what is right and what is wrong. So, from the etiquette of the first […]
A ‘loaded’ man does no wrong no matter his number of wives!
By Bunmi Sofola Justus at 39, can’t exactly remember what it was like to be poor. Spoilt by fairly comfortable parents as the first son, he soon made his own money doing ‘business.’ A paragon of easy virtue, he is reputed to have enjoyed dalliance with a lady he picked up at the hotel/restaurant whilst […]
‘I never dreamt I could welcome my husband’s new wife into our matrimonial home!’
By Bunmi Sofola KOREDE was raised in a polygamous home and confessed he experienced none of the emotional trauma a lot of children who grew up in polygamous settings claimed they went through. “My dad had three wives who bore him 13 children and my own mum is the middle wife. All the children wanted for […]
How some men enjoy humiliating successful women!
By Bunmi Sofola Why do some successful women fall for cads? This was a poser I put to Jola, a very good friend and a thorough professional who continues to reap the benefits of her labour. Unfortunately, the same couldn’t be said for her husband. They are both chartered accountants but Jola was lucky because she […]
When that ‘dirty old man’ is your dad!
By Bunmi Sofola How would you feel if your dad slept with your best friend? It happens all of the time but it’s no fun when you’re at the receiving end. ‘To say that my father, a great raconteur, often put on a show for my female friends would be an understatement. From the moment they […]
All in a woman’s world
By Bunmi Sofola The event I am sharing with you today, might seem hilarious on face value, but embedded in it are serious issues that confront many women who find themselves in similar situation. The pains, through the betrayal of love and lack of support from the men, who brought them to the very ebb. Unfortunately, […]
You need diplomatic tact to run two homes!
By Bunmi Sofola For years, Kemi, a senior executive officer in one f the Federal ministries resisted attempts by her ministry to transfer her to the head office in Abuja. Pulling all the strings available to her and Andy, her politician husband, she hung on to her position in Lagos until a few years ago […]
A thug in designer clothes is still a thug!
By Bunmi Sofola ANY festive period is ideal for coming up with a party you hope with serve as snare for trapping money bags. Having a party to get a sizeable contract or two from friends of your lover seems a bit calculating, but tell them cheerily that you are having a Christmas or New Year […]
DNA revisited: ‘My husband made my sister pregnant!’
By Bunmi Sofola ISN’T it amazing what torrent of scandal a little event like being pregnant can unleash? For the four years Lisa was married to Nekan, her husband, she tried all she could to get pregnant. At first she thought it was due to her reproductive organs malfunctioning. After series of tests, it was […]
Why open marriages work for some!
By Bunmi Sofola OPEN marriages work when one partner, usually the wife, turns a blind eye to her husband’s shenanigans. In most cases, the husband is usually careful not to push his luck by always flaunting his trophies. In a few cases, however, wives have been known to forgive the humiliation of a serial adulterer all […]
A man who raises his fist to a defenceless woman needs psychiatric help!
By Bunmi Sofola You wake up every morning wondering what ‘crimes’ you’ll commit today, and how your husband will punish you”, Tina, a victim of a violent husband laments. “A punch in the face for asking him for money for the children’s school fees? A slap in the face for saying hello to an old […]
She learnt the hard way she couldn’t mend her parents’ broken marriage!
By Bunmi Sofola Separation has often been a bitter pill for children involved in the heart-wrenching decision to swallow. A few years ago, Claire’s parents decided to separate after almost 20 years of marriage. “My father had always made it known that he abhorred polygamy,” said Claire. So, instead of taking a second wife when it […]
The pain of losing a loved one through child-birth
By Bunmi Sofola IT is impossible to go through the loss of someone you love and not be deeply affected by it. I think I knew when my girlfriend died that I would never be the same again. That my views, attitudes, outlook and philosophy would be different. Ten years on, I’m a different person to […]
Learning to love that man you married once again
By Bunmi Sofola FROM time to time, you run into couples who look so wrong together you wonder what the attraction is. And, there are couples you see and are convinced their union is ordained from heaven. But these assumptions could be far-fetched at times. Take Lisa’s case for instance. She’s been married for four years […]
Subduing a prodigal husband!
By Bunmi Sofola It was a busy time at the office and I’d left specific instructions with my secretary not to be disturbed – except she thought it was absolutely necessary. So, when she peeked tentatively into my office and I scowled in disapproval, she quickly mouthed that Charles, Jade’s husband was at the reception area. […]
