By Bunmi Sofola WE all have our share of foul-weather friends. But are you one yourself? Your career is grinding to a halt, the man you once termed “the best thing that ever happened to me” has found lasting bliss with another woman and your good friend is driving you insane giving you a blow-by-blow account […]

By Bunmi Sofola EVERY time Ireti visited her mother-in-law, her teeth were always on edge.  Ruth, her mother-in-law is now in her mid 70s, frail and ailing, but as full of spite as when Ireti married her precious son 15 years ago. “Ruth and I had always been at war,” confessed Ireti, “but Gboye, my […]

By Bunmi Sofola Research has found out that daughters of unfaithful fathers have less trust in men, lower expectations of their relationships and a lack of confidence – all hurdles Aminat said she’d had to overcome.  In her collection of old photographs, she has pictures of her, aged eleven, smiling up at an attractive woman who […]

By Bunmi Sofola WOMEN who have consciously decided not to have children still have to justify that decision in the face of their hostile friends, disappointed relatives and expectant grandmums. They have to alleviate even the ever-present feeling of guilt that this is something they should be doing. Out there, there are outraged group of people […]

By Bunmi Sofola LAGOS is definitely an exciting place,” said this charming lady I recently sat next to at a birthday bash. “My husband has just been transferred to Lagos from the Abeokuta branch of his office and I dreaded the things that could happen to my social life in Lagos. I needn’t have worried,” she […]

Erectile dysfunction can be a sign of more serious conditions, such as heart disease, diabetes or high blood pressure.

By Bunmi Sofola IT would be easy to assume that it is young irresponsible girls who are most likely to opt for abortion, but it is, in fact, middle-aged women who are pushing up the abortion rate.  Emilia was a divorced mother of three and just turned 40, when she met Chuka, a widower at […]

Friends were preparing a few congratulatory parties for her promotion when the bubble burst.

Astonishingly, despite the incontrovertible evidence, he still maintained it was just a fling and scuff at my heart-broken reaction.

I learnt some men, knowing they are infertile, have encouraged their wives to play the field with the hope of their getting pregnant

Some methods of coping, run so deep that we can see them ourselves.  Hall suggests also seeking the opinion of a good friend. 

The next day, my ex was round mine wanting to know if I knew anything about the damage to the car.  I showed righteous indignation.  What did he take me for? 

By Bunmi Sofola JOKE, a secondary school teacher married to James for close to 19 years tried not to raise her three children the way she’d been raised.  “My father was very authoritarian and we were all in awe of him He was such a bully that mum dared not cross him.  Prospective girlfriends and […]

One of the things that upset me most during my time as a teacher was the total lack of curiosity some children showed in the world around them.  While some pupils talked excitedly about what they wanted to be when they grew up and the countries they wanted to visit, others displayed no flicker of interest whatsoever. 

When children’s natural selfish competitive natures are unchecked and even encouraged, sibling rivalry easily spills over into something far nastier – bullying.