The most disturbing words in the English language, according to Kenneth, a fifty-something car dealer, are: “I am seeing someone”.  Because yes, it might just be a fling, and yes, the someone might be a delightful, witty person – but what if it isn’t and what if they weren’t?  What if your best friend/ex-husband/daughter’s new partner is […]

When I met Greg at a workshop recently and realized he was only 29, I lied I was in my 30s when the fact is, I was over 10 years older,” confessed Theresa as she gloated over her latest conquest.  “My friends urged me to go for it – to enjoy it while it lasted.   And […]

By Bunmi Sofola You wake up every morning wondering what ‘crimes’ you’ll commit today, and how your husband will punish you”, Tina, a victim of a violent husband laments.  “A punch in the face for asking him for money for the children’s school fees?  A slap in the face for saying hello to an old flame?  A […]

By Bunmi Sofola RECENTLY, Frieda, the head of a leading private school, lamented that modern parents are praising their children to the hilt and bringing up their daughters as if they can do no wrong.   She argued that being showered with too much praise and too many presents is not a good thing for a child […]

Joe is being plagued by terrible headaches.  One day, after years of suffering, he decided to see a migraine specialist…

Did it ever occur to you that when you stood at the altar and promised to love your husband ‘in sickness and in health,’ that one day you’d be forced to confront the reality of those vows?  You ought to.  This is life.  We’re all going to get old

I had not realised just how valuable my own parents’ presence in my children’s lives would be until I moved back to the family home with them

It would be easy to assume that it is young irresponsible girls who are most likely to opt for abortion, but it is, in fact, middle-aged women who are pushing up the abortion rate

If someone was caught having an affair, would they make a full confession? Would they know if they wanted to stay in that relationship or leave

It was one of the few weddings I just had to attend. Feeling a bit bored, I turned off, mentally calculating other things that needed my attention when the Reverend Father climbed onto the pulpit to give his wedding sermon

By Bunmi Sofola About a fortnight ago, I ran into an old friend on the Island. I was really glad to see him. He’d simply disappeared from the social scene with his family. After the usual pleasantries, he told me he had to leave the country when he did as his life was virtually falling […]

By Bunmi sofola Some five months ago, Earnest, a chartered accountant who’d just ventured into going it alone in his private firm, became a father for the first time. He’s still in awe of what he termed “a miracle and God’s priceless gift to us”. According to him, “My son’s coming has turned me upside […]

By Bunmi Sofola When Sussie’s son came on his first long vacation from the university a couple of years ago, he came with a handful of friends.  In days, they’d eaten Sussie out of home and her stock of lager and liquor had virtually disappeared. But the lad was growing to adulthood, Sussie had reasoned, […]

By Bunmi Sofola After a certain period of time, it is human nature to want to make changes in your life, whether it’s committing to that long-term gym membership you know deep down you’re never really going to use, or coming to the realisation that you’re not quite where you want to be in your […]

Edith and Seyi wee introduced by mutual friends about 15 years ago. Within two years, they were married. And within the next seven years, Edith had given birth to four children – three boys and a girl.