This was her second attempt at marriage and the two children she has lived with my mother-in-law. She is supposed to be self-employed and began to come home when I wasn’t working – more often than not when her sister was in the office. A few  times, she’d let it slip what she could do to me if I wasn’t married to her sister

And experts believe it’s about to get worse as there’s been a significant rise in the number of men saying they have gone off sex. Peter, a counsellor that specialises in relationships and sex therapy observes such complaints were unheard of some 15 years ago. “But today almost half the men I counsel claims that sex leaves them cold,” he says.

Only now do I realise that it was childish behaviour and I get sad when I recall how desolate I felt that day – and how crazy I must have looked to the neighbours. As Saturdays go, it was the worst – and so was the  hangover. Some bad behaviour can go dreadfully wrong; when men end up feeling pity instead of anger, the women have played their strongest card – and lost.”

We just relaxed on his bed watching some of these cheesy home-videos and catching up on events of the last few months. The fact that nookie wasn’t on the card didn’t mean I couldn’t roll with the punch when or if it happened, right? For a long time, it didn’t seem as if anything was going to happen. We cuddled, kissed a bit but there was no evident that any passion was going to spring from that loin of his!

“Thank goodness I could manage to drive home in spite of the pain. As I winced up the stairs and opened the bedroom door, never expecting my husband to be there since he was presumed to be at the party, I stood shell-shocked at what greeted my eyes. Peter was lying flat on his back, stark naked. The bed cover was on the floor and a naked woman was lying next to him. Fury raced through me. I wanted to batter the two of them – but I was in too much pain with my back. The woman’s arm was lying on Peter’s chest.