Different strokes for different folks. But it’s all a personal choice, it seems. While some agree that there is nothing wrong getting pregnant before marriage, others frown at it, from different standpoints. If you were caught in such a dilemma, what would you do?

So, every girl you know is doing it and you think it’s cool. Besides, they have goodies to show for their philanderings . You have heard all the talks about aristos being bread-winners and you can even keep a normal relationship while you keep your married man boyfriend and that seems normal since you are having the best of both worlds. Do you consider the consequences?

ENO has been a non-conformist all her life, so this eventful day, she waited patiently at the VIP lounge of the local airport, fuming at the unnecessary delay in her flight when she noticed this young chap in his late thirties saunter towards where she was. Eno is in her late fifties. Curiously, she glanced at the seemingly shy man as he perched on a seat next to her. The conversation was stilled at first until Eno let it drop that she had an engagement at the Port Harcourt branch of the motel she ran. “He instantly became interested in what I had to say and was chatting away as if he’d just discovered his tongue,” Eno recalled. “When we eventually boarded the plane, it was inevitable that we sat together.

FROM time to time, I get letters from you readers that are so interesting that I feel I ought to share them with the rest of you. A few days back, a letter simply signed “Iyabode” landed on my desk and I couldn’t help chuckling to myself as I read it. She wrote: “Dear Bunmi, I am one of the regular readers of your articles in The Vanguard every Sunday and I do not even know how fully I can express my feelings about your articles

ekinat thought there was nothing wrong in dating a man who has a wife. Her father had three wives and her mother was wife number two. Her religion also allows that.

Who should be older in a relationship- the man or the woman? What happens if the woman finds out that the man she wants to marry is younger? Will she go on with the wedding or simply walk away? Should the age difference be an obstacle to true love?

“Shall we qo somewhere quieter?” he now asked, taking my arm. I followed him on my stilettos, ignoring the blister on my left heel and we plonked on two chairs near the door.

Violence at home or in any relationship is a serious threat. A guy who bullies his lady or threatens her at the slightest provocation needs to have his head examined. A woman who destroys everything in the home or smashes windscreens of her guy’s vehicle or other things precious to him is not on the right track. She needs counseling and psycho-therapy just like the guy that destroys or batters a woman to drive home a point.

In the past, the choice of whom one married was tempered by tradition. Although parents have a large role to play in the marital life of their children, most young people would prefer taking the plunge on their own. Can your parents decide your choice of a spouse?
Bridget Amaraegbu has all the answers as usual. Enjoy.

This week, Bridget Amaraegbu takes a look at a common problem that has over time become part of our society. It is a situation where a newly wedded bride is confronted with the problem of coping with the troublesome antics of the husband’s love child.