Dear Bunmi, Early last year, I got this fantastic job as the personal assistant of the chairman of a pharmaceutical company. Right from the interview, he was flirting with me. Weeks after I started the job, he found excuses to keep me late or to speak to me at lunch hour. Not long after, I […]

Dear Bunmi, My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have children. Recently, he’s become more and more obsessed with sex – he wants it all of the time and I’ve just found out he sometimes spikes my drink to make me hornier in bed. I still love him, but what can I […]

For quite a while now I’ve got what looks like a dark moustache on my upper lip and, recently, I’ve started to sprout hairs on the chin and my chest. Not exactly ‘magnet’ when you want to pull a man, you’ll agree. I’ve tried shaving, but it seems to encourage the growth. Are there lasting remedies? […]

Dear Bunmi, I’m a 28-year-old man and have not had any sexual experiences at all. I’m a graduate and have a good social life with great friends, both male and female. But finding a girlfriend seems impossible. Going over to women I don’t know and trying to chat them up seems both scary and embarrassing. What […]

Dear Bunmi, I NEED help and I need it badly! Four years ago, I met and fell in love with my brother’s friend who was then a medical student. I was a nurse at the teaching hospital where he was based. He was the greatest lover I ever had and I was, and still am, in […]

Dear Bunmi, My girlfriend and I have very healthy love-making appetite – and she really gives me pleasure.  But I’m greedy and believe I could get more out of her. I’m a good cook and have been wondering lately if aphrodisiacs really work. If they do, what can I cook for her to whet her appetite […]

Dear Bunmi, Is it adultery if a married man goes out once a week with a woman who is also married? My husband swears no love-making is involved and that he and his secretary are just ‘good friends’. He says adultery means sex between a married person and a single person. What is your own definition? […]

A growing body of researchers is showing men who delay fatherhood are putting their children’s health at risk every bit as much as women who decide to delay motherhood until they are 40s. New studies suggest that children born to older men may be at raised risk of a string of genetic disorders and diseases, including autism, […]

By Bunmi Sofola It’s the dream of most women to get married to a man whose chemistry works well with hers.  She’s dreamt of the magic of her wedding day for years.  And now the day is here, would she be stepping into her worst nightmare?   “As I walked down the aisle towards the man […]

Dear Bunmi, I will be 50 this year. Seven months ago, I fell for a man I’ve known socially for sometime. He says he’s committed to me but doesn’t want to get married again after his first marriage failed. Yet, I can’t live with him without getting married, as my religion doesn’t allow it. We […]

Dear Bunmi, My 25th birthday is around the corner and I’m thinking of having a fairly big one. My current boyfriend is getting worked up about it and hinted he had something really special planned for the day. That gets me panicking because I’ve been unhappy with the relationship and plan to dump him. As […]

Dear Bunmi, I am 16 and there is this  18-year-old boy who has been sending me letters and text messages informing me how much he loves me. He keeps on trying to convince me that I’m the only one who occupies his heart. When I told him that I don’t want him to be my […]

Dear Bunmi, For quite a while now  I’ve got what looks like a dark moustache on my upper lip and, recently, I’ve started to sprout hairs on the chin and my chest. Not exactly ‘magnet’ when you want to pull a man, you’ll agree. I’ve tried shaving, but it seems to encourage the growth. Are […]

Dear Bunmi, Two years ago, my boyfriend moved in with me and my two children from a previous marriage. He got on well with the children and things seemed to be going well, until a few months ago when he told me he would rather be on his own. I was surprised. When I pressed […]

Dear Bunmi, I used to enjoy sex with my husband of almost 50 years, until recently when he has trouble getting an erection. Sex before then used to be maybe once a month and it brought us enough satisfaction. Do you think Viagra could give our sex life a boost?  He’s now 75 years old. Mariam, […]