I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and we’ve been together for five years.  The problem is, we’re always arguing but I know we love each other.

Unfortunately, I’ve started sleeping with a married friend of my uncle. He’s much older than I am and I don’t know how it happened or why I’m doing it.

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He gives me a lot of gifts and money, but I don’t love him at all.

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How do I get out?
Lape, by e-mail.

Dear Lape,
You’ll have to be strong and tell your lover the affair is over.

Don’t blame yourself too much – he’s behaving badly and you are clearly vulnerable.

Arguments are always up-setting and although you and your boyfriend love each other, there are pressures upon you – especially from this dirty old man who thinks he can buy your affection with money.

Very few relationships begun at 18 stand the test of time – people change as they grow up.

If there’s someone you can talk to, then ask for their support in making your relationship work.

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