I didn’t encourage him to move in with me
Dear Bunmi, I am a divorced mother of two children. Three years ago, I met a man through work and he later told me he was unhappy in his marriage. We started an affair and he became happier and fun to be with. He also contributed a lot towards the upkeep of the house. Towards the […]
Am I frigid?
Dear Bunmi, Although I am an enlightened 24-year-old secretary, the thought of sex has made me feel sick to my stomach for years. I have to get very drunk and grit my teeth before I allow my boyfriend to have sex with me. Friends have always bragged of how mind-blowing they find sex. Why am I […]
His weight turns me off sex!
Dear Bunmi, I got married over 12 years ago to a man who was on the plum side. I didn’t mind this too much as I wasn’t slim either. Unfortunately, he’s piled on a lot of weight since we got married and I hate the way he looks. I’m not nasty to him about his […]
Pregnant for my best friend’s brother
Dear Bunmi, A few months ago, my best friend’s brother paid a visit to one of the top managers in the office where I work. He didn’t know I work there and was actually glad to see me. He offered me lunch and we had a lovely time. When he asked where I stayed, I told […]
Time on your hand? Why not give your love life the A – Z boost!
By Bunmi Sofola RECENTLY, I had been inundated with requests from you readers on how to improve your love life. And what better time to start than now to relieve the stress of the pandemic and the economy? I was musing on this when I came across an A to Z guide to a sexier you […]
Do women suffer more than men when relationships end?
By Bunmi Sofola A couple of years back, I had a business lunch with a powerful female executive of a textile firm. We’d never met before but by the first course, I’d learned that she had a young son, that juggling a demanding job and home life was nearly killing her and that the father […]
Get rid of that cheat and net a better man!
By Bunmi Sofola It may be little comfort, but women whose partners cheat on them are likely to be better off in the long run. The largest study of break-ups caused by infidelity found that the lessons learned helped women pick a better partner. The heartbreak of unfaithfulness left them with a ‘higher mating intelligence […]
Your ex could come in handy when you’re in-between lovers!
By Bunmi Sofola IT was chin-wagging session with us ‘girls’ a few weeks back in Layo’s small bungalow. A very successful jeweller, she travels far and wide to source for the products she sells and charges hard currency for most of the items. She was rich to say the least. A mother of three children, […]
He refuses to take precaution
Dear Bunmi, For years I was involved with a man who verbally and physically abused me. I finally had the courage to leave him but, because of his nastiness, I seem to resent men in a big way and they tend to hurt and use me. I am now in my late 20s and recently met […]
Is this infection because of oral sex?
Dear Bunmi, My husband and I sometimes engage in perversion whenever I am having my period; I do blow-job on him. The last time I gave him one, I noticed the top of his manhood looked a bit sore, but we went ahead, regardless. Now, the sore is worse and the inside of my mouth […]
Hubby doesn’t trust our teenage son alone in the house
Dear Bunmi, Whenever we got to my husband’s town house for weekend functions, he insists that our 17-year-old son stays with his sister’s family. Our two other children are away at the university and I believe our son is mature enough to stay alone in our flat, but my husband thinks otherwise. What do you […]
