One night, with Seye staying with his mum yet again, Peter dropped by for a visit. He had two bottles of wine he said he intended to share with us both but we ended up drinking the lot alone – we were truly slushed by this time. ‘

Have you ever eaten foods that were past their sell-by dates?  Sometimes ago, leading super market executives from Britain’s Sainsbury’s, Waitrose and the Co-operative admitted they regularly ignore expiry dates at home.

Unfortunately, Wura’s problem is quite common. As soon as a woman gets out of the university or starts work, the pressure is on for her to find a suitable husband and settle down.  That is why, in terms of choosing a partner for life, she is more likely to go for the prospective ‘perfect’ husband and father over someone untrustworthy and irresponsible. But there’s rather an important factor that seems to be missing here – sexual chemistry. The other factor is the ability to compromise enough to please your partner – which is lacking in Abel, Wura’s fiance.

Nuru’s text to me was disturbing.  “I don’t know who I really got married to – a saint or the devil?”  Intuitively, I picked him as the few readers of this column to have a chat with. What happened to your marriage?”, I asked him.  “My wife, who I’d been married to for almost 20 years suddenly, turned into a monster”, he said.

The business centre he set up when he was retrenched wasn’t bringing in much and that really frustrated him. When we argued, he said lots of things – that I didn’t know when to shut up, that I looked like the back of an elephant. He even complained I came home reeking of kitchen fume.