The need to stop equating sex with love
By Bunmi Sofola Some women’s sexual escapades often sound stranger than fiction. Why does a particular woman seek sex all of the time, with different men losing all sense of shame? Abibat’s reason was because she thought she was fat and unattractive. The only way she could have been interested in her was to spread […]
How not to settle for dodgy presents this Christmas
By Bunmi Sofola There is currently a subliminal build-up to Christmas. Wherever you turn, discreet Christmas carols blaring from the stereos of the various record shops assault your ears. Could it be Christmas already? Well, this is November and Christmas is only a few weeks away. The cable network is awash with weepy Christmas films […]
Before you make another resolution you’re bound to break
By Bunmi Sofola The biggest problem with resolutions is that they’re so negative,” observed Rikiat, a 43 year-old legal practitioners. “I will watch less TV” or “I will stop eating junk food” or “I work fewer hours.” While the root of these desires is perfectly worthy, the phrasing is all wrong. Telling yourself not to […]
Still don’t know what you’re getting for Christmas?!
Now that the season of giving is with us, if you sniff hard enough, you can actually smell the New Year! The shops are bursting with gifts, despite almost abject poverty, despite the thinness of foreign exchange on the ground. And the kids are back from school, their expectant, almost accusing looks, tugging at your […]
Will this be your first Christmas as a divorcee?
By Bunmi Sofola Suddenly finding yourself alone after many years of marriage shatters the foundation of your existence. As well as the pain of a broken heart, you have to deal with the practicalities of separation while trying to remain strong for your children. With Christmas bounding down the door, the good cheers of revellers […]
Why women are such good liars!
By Bunmi Sofola Most of us will probably admit to the occasional little white lie. But in fact, more than one in three people tell at least one lie every day. And it turns out that the fairer sex is the biggest fibbers of all. According to a survey, a shocking four in five women […]
