Put your wife down at your peril!
By Bunmi Sofola LARA had often moaned that someone else had got the life she was supposed to have. We were mates at the secondary school and have remained close decades after we left. A fairly brilliant student, we were all mildly surprised when she opted for matrimony. Within the spate of a decade, she’d not […]
I regret snatching my friend’s husband — Reader
By Bunmi Sofola A Reader wrote: I have followed your columns way back from your Punch days when I was in the university. Most of the times, your articles are so down-to-earth they speak to me – as if you are writing about me. In one of the editions of Sunday Vanguard a few months […]
How not to settle for dodgy presents this Christmas
By Bunmi Sofola There is currently a subliminal build-up to Christmas. Wherever you turn, discreet Christmas carols blaring from the stereos of the various record shops assault your ears. Could it be Christmas already? Well, this is November and Christmas is only a few weeks away. The cable network is awash with weepy Christmas films […]
Before you make another resolution you’re bound to break
By Bunmi Sofola The biggest problem with resolutions is that they’re so negative,” observed Rikiat, a 43 year-old legal practitioners. “I will watch less TV” or “I will stop eating junk food” or “I work fewer hours.” While the root of these desires is perfectly worthy, the phrasing is all wrong. Telling yourself not to […]
Still don’t know what you’re getting for Christmas?!
Now that the season of giving is with us, if you sniff hard enough, you can actually smell the New Year! The shops are bursting with gifts, despite almost abject poverty, despite the thinness of foreign exchange on the ground. And the kids are back from school, their expectant, almost accusing looks, tugging at your […]
Will this be your first Christmas as a divorcee?
By Bunmi Sofola Suddenly finding yourself alone after many years of marriage shatters the foundation of your existence. As well as the pain of a broken heart, you have to deal with the practicalities of separation while trying to remain strong for your children. With Christmas bounding down the door, the good cheers of revellers […]
Why women are such good liars!
By Bunmi Sofola Most of us will probably admit to the occasional little white lie. But in fact, more than one in three people tell at least one lie every day. And it turns out that the fairer sex is the biggest fibbers of all. According to a survey, a shocking four in five women […]
‘University turned my daughter into an alcoholic!’
By Bunmi Sofola The hope of every mother is for her eldest child to leave the nest to start university – she also dreads the day it happens,” says Mudia, 51, an executive director of a stock broking firm”. So came the day when I hugged my 20-year-old Matilda goodbye in front of her new […]
Wives who fled their matrimonial homes with all material wealth…
By Bunmi Sofola It is believed the thunder seldom strikes twice at a spot but an adage warned that once you’ve witnesses its horror, you would show Shango (the god of thunder) more reverence. Anyone who has been through the rigours of divorce, battered, bruised and raw, will agree that it is a painfully traumatic […]
Fair-weather friends you can do without
By Bunmi Sofola Maggie, a contented mother of three ran into an old classmate three years ago, and her life has never been the same. “I went to the same polytechnic with Nelly,” she recalled “and we were the best of friends. Shortly after college, she travelled abroad and I got married to Supo, a […]
The best way to cover an affair? Get rid of the evidence!
By Bunmi Sofola My dearest”, the letter said. “I will call you my lady because that is what you are. Your breasts, your thighs, the way your eyes seemed to scream across the room, bidding me to seduce you, pulling me erect, drawing me, like moth before the flame, towards fire and abandon – are […]
