What’s a man’s pride got to do with it when he smells the money?!
By Bunmi Sofola SYLVIA admitted that her parent’s marriage and the stoic way her mummy yielded her position as the first wife to a much younger and ambitious woman prepared her for the way she handled her relationship with men. Her story: ‘When a man suddenly discovered he’s scaled the ladder of success faster than he’d […]
Could you ever have the courage to ask your adult ‘kids’ to leave home?!
By Bunmi Sofola They used to be called the derive name of Kidults – but now there are loads of single and working adults still hanging to the family homes’ chandeliers! Take Rolake for instance. She has just clocked 30 and, according to her, every time she’s in the family home, “My mum sends the […]
Why some children can’t stand their alcoholic parents
By Bunmi Sofola NO matter how many unprintable words you would use for an alcoholic, the fact still remains that alcoholism, apart from being a sign of weakness, is also a ‘disease.’ Once the bug bites you, getting it out of your system becomes a nightmare. The nightmare becomes endless when you have to live […]
It’s indecent the way some people raid their deceased relatives’ property!
By Bunmi Sofola THE Nigerian culture is of ten rooted in diplomacy, especially when it has to do with polygamous relationships. Eight cases out of ten, it is the first wife that’s left gnashing her teeth after the death of her husband. A few weeks ago, Bola, a good friend, had a get together party for […]
What you expect from your marriage is not what you often get!
By Bunmi Sofola Will the average person experiencing problems in their relationship know the right time to walk away? It goes without saying that divorce now is quick and with little rancour, single parenthood is on the increase and more men opt for the single life despite the fact that eligible women are two a […]
The best you can be in a relationship is yourself!
By Bunmi Sofola THERE comes a time in a woman’s life when she has to decide who to settle with and make a go for him. Laila was once briefly engaged to her childhood sweetheart who took off with one of her close friends. Now approaching 30, she’s been involved with Joseph, a photographer who […]
It’s not that easy turning your back on an abusive relationship!
By Bunmi Sofola The golden advice is when you spot any sign of violence in a potential partner, you should run… It’s not as cut and dried as that, “confessed Gloria, a 38-year-old tax consultant who recently escaped from the controlling clutches of a partner she referred to as a ‘nasty piece of work’. I […]
Is your man taking you for granted by being a slob?
By Bunmi Sofola I was looking at some old family photographs the other day when I realised to my horror that Jude, my husband still wears the same revolting danshiki with matching trousers that he wore 12 years ago! Moaned Jesicca, a 49 year old medical doctor married to Jude, 53 and the owner of […]
Juggling lovers with the perfection of a magician!
By Bunmi Sofola A few months ago I spent a few days with a very dear friend who lives in a block of luxury flat, and noticed the occupant of the next flat to hers was new. In the past, the flat had been occupied by some noisy neighbours. It was a relief to have […]
Why you should ditch the booze when you’re pregnant!
By Bunmi Sofola IMAGINE when your pregnancy is scanned for the first time so you could see your precious baby growing in the womb, suddenly its whole body gives a shudder and the foetus appears to jump. Such a movement is known as the startle reflex; and the scan described above are from photographs from […]
Does your man have the ‘love rat’ gene?!
How do you spot a love rat? The current man in your life has virtually swept you off your feet. He texts you all day, takes you to your favourite eatery from time to time, boys you little gifts and calls you at night because he can’t stop thinking of you! The first time Sandra’s […]
