Husbands who believe wives bring out the violence in them!
By Bunmi Sofola WILL spousal violence ever go away? Two readers sent in their views recently. One is a married mother of three and the other is a bewildered husband who’s been physically and mentally abused by his wife. “My husband and I were together for nearly ten years,” wrote Ibi, “and he was a violent […]
You need diplomatic tact to run two homes!
By Bunmi Sofola For years, Kemi, a senior executive officer in one f the Federal ministries resisted attempts by her ministry to transfer her to the head office in Abuja. Pulling all the strings available to her and Andy, her politician husband, she hung on to her position in Lagos until a few years ago […]
A thug in designer clothes is still a thug!
By Bunmi Sofola ANY festive period is ideal for coming up with a party you hope with serve as snare for trapping money bags. Having a party to get a sizeable contract or two from friends of your lover seems a bit calculating, but tell them cheerily that you are having a Christmas or New Year […]
DNA revisited: ‘My husband made my sister pregnant!’
By Bunmi Sofola ISN’T it amazing what torrent of scandal a little event like being pregnant can unleash? For the four years Lisa was married to Nekan, her husband, she tried all she could to get pregnant. At first she thought it was due to her reproductive organs malfunctioning. After series of tests, it was […]
Why open marriages work for some!
By Bunmi Sofola OPEN marriages work when one partner, usually the wife, turns a blind eye to her husband’s shenanigans. In most cases, the husband is usually careful not to push his luck by always flaunting his trophies. In a few cases, however, wives have been known to forgive the humiliation of a serial adulterer all […]
A man who raises his fist to a defenceless woman needs psychiatric help!
By Bunmi Sofola You wake up every morning wondering what ‘crimes’ you’ll commit today, and how your husband will punish you”, Tina, a victim of a violent husband laments. “A punch in the face for asking him for money for the children’s school fees? A slap in the face for saying hello to an old […]
She learnt the hard way she couldn’t mend her parents’ broken marriage!
By Bunmi Sofola Separation has often been a bitter pill for children involved in the heart-wrenching decision to swallow. A few years ago, Claire’s parents decided to separate after almost 20 years of marriage. “My father had always made it known that he abhorred polygamy,” said Claire. So, instead of taking a second wife when it […]
The pain of losing a loved one through child-birth
By Bunmi Sofola IT is impossible to go through the loss of someone you love and not be deeply affected by it. I think I knew when my girlfriend died that I would never be the same again. That my views, attitudes, outlook and philosophy would be different. Ten years on, I’m a different person to […]
Learning to love that man you married once again
By Bunmi Sofola FROM time to time, you run into couples who look so wrong together you wonder what the attraction is. And, there are couples you see and are convinced their union is ordained from heaven. But these assumptions could be far-fetched at times. Take Lisa’s case for instance. She’s been married for four years […]
Subduing a prodigal husband!
By Bunmi Sofola It was a busy time at the office and I’d left specific instructions with my secretary not to be disturbed – except she thought it was absolutely necessary. So, when she peeked tentatively into my office and I scowled in disapproval, she quickly mouthed that Charles, Jade’s husband was at the reception area. […]
The nanny was a better option than the wife
By Bunmi Sofola YOU must have, lost count of stories you’ve been regaled with about the shenanigans of some husbands and the family’s nanny. Only, it is a heartbreaking reality for some wives. What does it feel like to be betrayed by the man you married with a woman living under your own roof? And what […]
