A CULTURE of heavy drinking has led to sexual molestation becoming the norm on a night out for young women— and they feel they have to put with it, an academic report warns. In a disturbing insight into how 18 to 24-year-olds behave on a night out, a survey has found one in three girls received inappropriate or unwanted physical attention or groping, but few were surprised. Academics said that excessive consumption of alcohol has turned a lot of clubs into a ‘permissive social arena’.

When Joanne left the comfort of her parents’ home to study pharmacy at the university, she wasn’t in the least apprehensive. A bubbly girl just turning 20, she looked forward to making friends. Inside a few months, she’d not only made friends, she found Alfred, a boyfriend she fell madly in love with! “He lived off campus,” explained Joanne,’ and I moved in with him in my second year. The rest of my stay at Ibadan just flew by, and in no time at all, I had a degree under my belt ready to go back to Lagos for another stage of my life.

I think I’m beginning to hate my father. He is too rude to me all time. He shouts at me and doesn’t seem to regard me at all. I can’t find happiness when he is around me . I have two brothers: one bigger and one smaller. Whenever my bigger or smaller brother does something, he always turns their fault on me. He doesn’t let me play games or watch TV. My brothers have mp3s, TV games but I have nothing . Are you sure I’m his child. I’m 19.

The lady of my dreams is in love with another man. I don’t know what to do. I really like her and I think she likes me. The problem is that she is dating someone. The bigger problem is that she is dating my friend. I cannot come between them because I’m the one that settles their love issues. What do I do?

My parents fight all the time and this is becoming embarrassing. I cannot invite my friends to my house when my parents are around because it really bothers me that something can break out between them and you can imagine my shame. Why is my own case different? I visit my friends at their homes and even spends weekends with them but none of my friends can come to my place. It’s not that they don’t want but I cannot let them because my parents are always fighting. How do I stop my parents fighting?

I think a shameful thing has happened to me. I have a crush on my best friend’s brother. I’m 18 and he is in his 20s. I’ve known him and my best friend since I was 10 and I started to like him when I was 12, just because we talk to each other so much and make each other laugh. There was a time where I was at my best friend’s house and she went to have a shower and I was outside and he came outside and we talked and started laughing and playing basketball and having a good time. I just haven’t ever met a guy like him.

She treats me as if I’m her personal sex machine

A septuagenarian, Mr Tajudeen Giwa, has asked an Ikorodu Customary Court in Lagos State to dissolve his marriage of over 40 years because his wife ignores him and denies him sex.

You’ve served up a delicious meal crawling with every piece of his favourite meat, plunk a bottle of wine or his favourite tipple on the dining table, before cuddling up to him on the sofa as he switched on the TV. Today is bound to be the night you get a bit of rumpy-bumpy, right? Most women would quite rightly expect a passionate end to such a satisfying evening. But these days, it seems, we’re likely to get a lot less than we hoped for. Perhaps a peck on the cheek. Or simply a hug. ‘Not tonight, love,” says this man you’ve virtually broken your culinary skill trying to please. Before you know it, he’s hot -footed it into the bedroom, already dozing off!

For the woman, one of the greatest challenges of her love life remains the inability to hold on to her man. The differences in the physiological and psychological composition of both sexes make this feat an elusive task for her. While the man has been described as largely polygamous in nature due to his flitting emotional and sexual needs, the woman possesses a more tamed emotional and sexual disposition and an ability to be more emotionally stable.