It may sound like I’m the luckiest woman on earth, but too much of everything is bad and I’m getting bored and upset by it all

It’s often said that you never know a partner until you live together. For almost two years, Deola and Cletus not only courted, they lived in each other’s flats. When Cletus eventually proposed marriage, Deola had no problems whatsoever accepting to be his wife. It was long overdue – both of them being in their […]

By Bunmi Sofola NO matter how many unprintable words you would use for an alcoholic, the fact still remains that alcoholism, apart from being a sign of weakness, is also a ‘disease.’  Once the bug bites you, getting it out of your system becomes a nightmare.  The nightmare becomes endless when you have to live […]

By Bunmi Sofola THE Nigerian culture is of ten rooted in diplomacy, especially when it has to do with polygamous relationships.  Eight cases out of ten, it is the first wife that’s left gnashing her teeth after the death of her husband.  A few weeks ago, Bola, a good friend, had a get together party for […]

FOR a man who just turned 30, Joel should be at his most virile.  Tall, handsome with a well-paid job, he admits he’s never had any difficulty attracting the opposite sex.  His problem is that when he wants to have sex with a woman, he needs up to two Viagra pills to perform.  The blue tablets […]

“To be faithful ‘till death do us part’ might be a wonderful idea, but there is plenty struggle – and slip – along the way”

“The truth is, no generation likes to imagine their parents making love. It is built into us not to consider older people – those over 60 – as sexual beings”

I learned a few months later that he did another one right in his room under my roof. The girl was one of his friend’s girlfriends

The problem with her is her plain looks. My ex always has a sneer on her face whenever we run into her, and my friends say I could do better

For most women, introducing another woman into the marital home would be unthinkable in spite of the polygamous marriages that are almost the norm in the society.  Fatima grew up in a polygamous setting in which she said was a happy one.  When she got married 14 years ago, she wasn’t under any illusion she […]

By Bunmi Sofola Will the average person experiencing problems in their relationship know the right time to walk away?  It goes without saying that divorce now is quick and with little rancour, single parenthood is on the increase and more men opt for the single life despite the fact that eligible women are two a […]

Dear Bunmi, twice I’ve called off the relationship because I thought we weren’t right for each other. But he always convinced me to get back

‘What do you bring to the table’ is now a yardstick for measuring a potential bride’s eligibility. The traditional wife material standards fast going extinct

Dear Bunmi says: ‘You need to realise that you are not your brother’s keeper. You’re falling victim to what is termed an emotional extortion’

There are tonnes of things about a man that can turn a woman on. I’ve heard of some women who go weak at the knee when they clamp eyes on men in uniforms