SOME years back, I once asked an old friend how it felt like being jilted at age fortyish. She’s actually started making wedding plans when loverboy suddenly got married to a girl much younger than she was. She was so devastated she hid from her friends, refusing to even discuss her plight. “No different from […]

By Bunmi Sofola It is believed the thunder seldom strikes twice at a spot but an adage warned that once you’ve witnesses its horror, you would show Shango (the god of thunder) more reverence.  Anyone who has been through the rigours of divorce, battered, bruised and raw, will agree that it is a painfully traumatic […]

By Bunmi Sofola Maggie, a contented mother of three ran into an old classmate three years ago, and her life has never been the same.  “I went to the same polytechnic with Nelly,” she recalled “and we were the best of friends.  Shortly after college, she travelled abroad and I got married to Supo, a […]

By Bunmi Sofola My dearest”, the letter said. “I will call you my lady because that is what you are.  Your breasts, your thighs, the way your eyes seemed to scream across the room, bidding me to seduce you, pulling me erect, drawing me, like moth before the flame, towards fire and abandon – are […]

This practice can stem from a combination of personal financial constraints, cultural expectations, and the desire to make informed decisions in an era where economic considerations are increasingly important.