I had gone to collect some clothes from the tailor but they were not ready, so, I decided to wait. While he made finishing touches to them, we chatted away on the conduct of many artisans especially on their penchant for disappointing their clients. Suddenly, a little girl aged seven or eight ran into the shop. I was struck by her beauty and innocence. She was fair skinned, had neatly groomed hair, even after the long school hours, her pair of white socks and green uniform were still quite clean.

My girlfriend of two years smokes like the proverbial chimney. She was a smoker when I met her, a habit she picked up abroad when she was a student.

I met my current girlfriend three years ago after she’d been let down by her ex-husband.

It can be hard to get a girl’s attention, especially if she’s getting attention from lots of other guys. Before you take things further, think about the reasons why you like her. Do you have similar interests? What qualities does she have that you like? Make sure you like her for the right reasons and not because other guys are talking about her. If she wasn’t so popular would you still be interested?

Sex is pleasurable. Sex is good for the mind and body. Studies have revealed that it can do wonders for the body as well as even promote longevity. Men and women who have discovered the secret codes to maximising the thrills and pleasures of sex swear it is comparable to no other known pleasures to mankind. King of Juju music, Sunny Ade, described sexual pleasure as a sweet and delicious sensation felt in the body and not by the taste buds in the mouth.

THE cliche of the frigid wife who doesn’t want sex has been replaced by a new reality—women who are married or in a committed relationship want to be having more sex. So how does a woman in love bring the passion back into her relationship? According to Dr. Phill McGraw, a renowned sociologist: “Figuring out what you can do differently is the most efficient way to get the sex life you want.” He along with some experts then proceed to list some moves that will leave your man begging for mercy tonight and every night hereafter. Here in a nutshells is what they suggested:

It sounds to me like your partner is going to have to make a decision about whether he can let this go or not. He might hate your past, and that’s okay, but bringing it up and resenting you for it is not helpful. In fact it is a complete waste of time as you cannot change the past. When your partner is resentful, it can make your relationship extremely challenging.

There’s no easy answer about when to act on your feelings. People take different amounts of time to move on from a relationship and it’s important for them to have this time before they move onto another relationship. You didn’t say how long he was with his ex, so it’s hard to tell how serious the relationship was. As a general rule, the longer the relationship, the longer the time it takes to get over those feelings and be ready to commit emotionally to a new relationship.

It sounds like you are feeling guilty for what you did. It must be hard to keep these feelings hidden from your boyfriend. We all make mistakes, and they can help us to learn about relationships. No one knows automatically how to be the perfect girlfriend or boyfriend. Most adults are still trying to work it out! While you may be absolutely positive that you will not cheat on your boyfriend again, think about how you would feel if the situation were reversed. Would you want to know if your boyfriend had sex with someone else? Or how would you feel if you heard it from someone else?

But the wonderful thing about masturbation is that you can’t catch a disease from yourself (or we must already have the disease). Sexually transmitted infections (STI) have to be caught from someone who has the infection.