By UDEME ARCHIBONG

Life is a magnetic field always attracting or repelling success.

Success answers to those who have learnt the art of pleasing. Success beckons to those who possess irresistible traits. Success rewards those who captivate the hearts of people by developing an attractive personality.

When he was the President of the United States rather than being aloof and out of reach with the common man, he became sincerely interested in every person with whom he met. He would stoop low to ask them about their families and listen to their ideas-no matter how humble their backgrounds.

He cared enough to know each member of the household staff of the White House and years after he left office, when he visited the White House he greeted each by name and commented about an interest that they had expressed or something they had done for him when he was President.

His name was Theodore Roosevelt. One of the important qualities of an attractive personality is making people feel important and one of the ways you can achieve this is by being interested in people and showing them that you care. Samuel Johnson counsels “take away my money and I shall be temporarily inconvenienced. Take away my importance and you crush me.”

At the core of an attractive personality lies a Positive Mental Attitude. This singular personality trait shapes the nature of thoughts; determines the emotions experienced; influences the bearing and disposition of an individual and transcends to anchor every other qualities of an attractive personality. Positive Mental Attitude is having a positive perspective or outlook about yourself; your abilities; people and your world.

There is a magnetic aura that accompanies an individual, who has discovered his Purpose; who knows where he is going and acts upon his plan to get there, for the world cannot stop a determined man but only helps him actualize his dreams. Nothing repels like a personality that drifts aimlessly through life; surrounded by indecision and lack of focus, he loses the confidence of people.

Sincerity of purpose is a personality trait that is highly prized anywhere in the world. Living in a world full with deceit, hypocrisy and manipulation, sincerity will set you apart and endear people towards you.

Humility of heart is a highly prized personality trait that is the reserve of those who are in good terms with their conscience and in harmony with God.

Nothing repels like an uncontrolled anger which is displayed in a loosed tongue that tears apart rather than building people up. A personality that attracts exhibits controlled and positive emotions and side steps negative emotions which builds and sustains relationships with others.

Life is a cycle of change. With the ever changing conditions of life and human relationships, adaptability is needed in order for one not to lose his sense of balance. Therefore, a flexible personality that easily adapts to the changes of life and relationships will win hearts.

A pleasing tone of voice, an amiable facial expression and the right words void of profanity and offense are sure gauges of an attractive personality.

Nothing captivates the hearts of people than graciousness of manner, cordiality of bearing, generosity of feeling and a helpful disposition. The individual, who carries an aura of warmth and friendliness; who is stripped of selfishness and lives to give; who spread sunlight instead of shadows; harmony instead of discord; cheerfulness instead of gloom; praises instead of criticism; beauty instead of ugliness; truth instead of error; love instead of hate and magnanimity instead of pettiness  is admired and welcome anywhere.

Therefore, an attractive personality is the key to an attractive life.