What’s a man’s pride got to do with it when he smells the money?!
By Bunmi Sofola SYLVIA admitted that her parent’s marriage and the stoic way her mummy yielded her position as the first wife to a much younger and ambitious woman prepared her for the way she handled her relationship with men. Her story: ‘When a man suddenly discovered he’s scaled the ladder of success faster than he’d […]
Now’s the time to put a halt to your lavish lifestyle!
By Bunmi Sofola We all have at least one friend like Cynthia. The type of friend you’ve had for years but who could still drive you mad. The last time I called at her place, her ‘bosom’ friend Yinka was around. More of a scrounge, she always agreed to whatever Cynthia said, forever grateful for her […]
At what age should you allow your kids to play naked in the street?!
By Bunmi Sofola Do you think it’s irresponsible to let children run around naked in public? And at what age should they stop doing so? Decades back, long before the emergence of paedophiles and serial rapists, nobody bat an eyelash whenever any kid ran around the neighbourhood – some even did it close to puberty! […]
I won’t follow mama’s footsteps
By Yetunde Arebi You should have seen the shock on my aunt’s face when Temilade, her 32 year old daughter finally told her she had no intention of ever getting married! Weddings are a waste of money, while marriages are a waste of time, energy and emotions, she’d declared. All she desires is to be a single […]
Mothers-in-law who see nothing wrong in their son’s behaviour
By Sofola Bunmi For almost a week, Wura, a pharmacist recently battled a chronic attack of the malaria fever. “I was home-bound,” she said, “and Nick, my husband was no help. A typical Mama’s boy. I couldn’t count on him to look after himself, let alone after our two kids. The house-help was new and we needed […]
Why have scary special network feeds become a national pastime?
By Bunmi Sofola After some nudges from well-meaning friends, I finally activated the WhatsApp site some years back, and instantly declared it a brilliant find. It was exciting, new and loads of fun as more and more friends joined, sharing jokes and photos of very interesting nights out and other social events. Sadly, over the […]
What if your children don’t take to your new lover?!
It stands to reason that with the spate of divorce the society now witnesses and the number of unwanted pregnancies, single parenthood has come to stay.
No maternal instinct? It’s not such a big deal!
WOMEN who have consciously decided not to have children still have to justify that decision in the face of their hostile friends, disappointed relatives and expectant grandmums. They have to alleviate even the ever-present feeling of guilt that this is something they should be doing. Out there, there are outraged group of people determined to take the […]
Daughters who resent their dad’s girlfriends
The most disturbing words in the English language, according to Kenneth, a fifty-something car dealer, are: “I am seeing someone”. Because yes, it might just be a fling, and yes, the someone might be a delightful, witty person – but what if it isn’t and what if they weren’t? What if your best friend/ex-husband/daughter’s new partner is […]
The embarrassment of bringing home a younger lover to your daughter!
When I met Greg at a workshop recently and realized he was only 29, I lied I was in my 30s when the fact is, I was over 10 years older,” confessed Theresa as she gloated over her latest conquest. “My friends urged me to go for it – to enjoy it while it lasted. And […]
A man who raises his fist to a defenceless woman needs psychiatric help!
By Bunmi Sofola You wake up every morning wondering what ‘crimes’ you’ll commit today, and how your husband will punish you”, Tina, a victim of a violent husband laments. “A punch in the face for asking him for money for the children’s school fees? A slap in the face for saying hello to an old flame? A […]
