‘I regret snatching my friend’s husband’ — Reader
By Bunmi Sofola A Reader wrote: I have followed your columns way back from your Punch days when I was in the university. Most of the times, your articles are so down-to-earth they speak to me – as if you are writing about me. In one of the editions of Sunday Vanguard a few months back, […]
How to end a marriage without much bitterness
Some methods of coping, run so deep that we can see them ourselves. Hall suggests also seeking the opinion of a good friend.
When revenge could be therapeutic!
The next day, my ex was round mine wanting to know if I knew anything about the damage to the car. I showed righteous indignation. What did he take me for?
There is so much the police can do tackling under-aged sex
By Bunmi Sofola JOKE, a secondary school teacher married to James for close to 19 years tried not to raise her three children the way she’d been raised. “My father was very authoritarian and we were all in awe of him He was such a bully that mum dared not cross him. Prospective girlfriends and […]
Teachers frustrated by mums who neglect their children
One of the things that upset me most during my time as a teacher was the total lack of curiosity some children showed in the world around them. While some pupils talked excitedly about what they wanted to be when they grew up and the countries they wanted to visit, others displayed no flicker of interest whatsoever.
How siblings rivalry traumatises children
When children’s natural selfish competitive natures are unchecked and even encouraged, sibling rivalry easily spills over into something far nastier – bullying.
Women who believe white wine makes them do crazy things!
By Bunmi Sofola It was an exclusive 50th birthday party that boasted the best foods on the menu down to exotic canapé and choice wine and champagne. However, by the time desert was served, Veronica, 36, had changed from the polite, friendly lady who had initially charmed other guests, into an insulting and aggressive loud […]
Who would you rather marry? A gentleman or a love rat?
By Bunmi Sofola Once in a while, an event occurs that brings a similar one that happened ages ago back sharply into focus. Ini was the first to get married out of the ‘group’. She had to be. With so many men in heat panting after her, it was inevitable that she had to make […]
It’s none of his business the number of partners you’ve ‘had’!
By Bunmi Sofola A friend of mine recently met the men of her dreams. In the whirlwind courtship that followed, they quickly got round to the conversational games that lovers play. And “so it was that Mr. Right asked Miss Right: “How many men have you slept with? The sensible girl immediately reversed the question, to […]
Beware, low-fat diets can make you infertile!
By Bunmi Sofola HAVE you often wrestled to zip up your jeans, cursing every bulge and bump in your body, or gazed longingly at all the skimpy tops in the shops wishing you had the figure to carry them off? It is a fact that a lot of women have dreamt of being skinny at […]
The pain of losing a loved one through child-birth
Ten years on, I’m a different person to the one I would have been had she not died. And while deep in your soul you miss the person every day, the intense pain gets less with time – either that or you understand it more and live with it – but that itself is very comforting. You have to accept and assimilate the effect of your loss into your life. Only then can you start to deal with it….”
