How to handle the ‘teenage demon’ when it visits your children!
By Bunmi Sofola When Sussie’s son came on his first log vacation from the university a couple of years ago, he came with a handful of friends. In days, they’d eaten Sussie out of home and her stock of lager and liquor had virtually disappeared. But the lad was growing to adulthood, Sussie had reasoned, and […]
How common are ‘surrogate’ fathers?
I learnt some men, knowing they are infertile, have encouraged their wives to play the field with the hope of their getting pregnant
Dear Bunmi, I didn’t know he was a kiss-and-tell!
He invited me to his flat and we made passionate love — it made me fall in love with him more.
Unscrupulous men who ‘date’ their friend’s daughters!
GBOLADE couldn’t believe what he was hearing. He stared at his 26-year-old daughter, the girl he had spared no expense to train into a very intelligent and promising lawyer, now telling him she was pregnant? When he first heard the news, his heart leapt with joy – his cup, he thought, now runneth over.
How to end a marriage without much bitterness
Some methods of coping, run so deep that we can see them ourselves. Hall suggests also seeking the opinion of a good friend.
What exactly is infidelity? – A reader asks
“Open marriage requires great courage and effort on the part of each spouse. Marriage is a complex relationship and shifting the dynamics of it is always a delicate process”
What exactly is infidelity? – A reader asks
I suggest that the first step in this process is the realization that, in most cases, infidelity and extra marital relations are two very separate phenomena.
Dear Bunmi, what does an orgasm feel like?
Dear Bunmi, I’m a 26-year-old secondary school teacher in love with this wonderful man. He is my second serious boyfriend. Although I really enjoy sex with him, I’m not sure if I’ve had an orgasm. Whenever we make love, he’s always asking me to tell him if I’m ‘coming’. Well, I don’t really know. I sometimes have […]
Dear Bunmi, his affairs are public knowledge
“It’s bad enough he has affairs, but reading about them anywhere is stretching your tolerance to the extreme”
When you discovered your husband and mum were once lovers!
It’s not unheard of that some women, after sampling the delight and wealth of a toy boy, schemed such lover into the arms of one of their offsprings. Some of these daughters know that the men they’re now marching down the altar with used to be their mothers’ lovers. Some don’t. When Mosun got married […]
When revenge could be therapeutic!
The next day, my ex was round mine wanting to know if I knew anything about the damage to the car. I showed righteous indignation. What did he take me for?
A mother’s walk of shame out of her matrimonial home
“In the mean time, dad got a third wife. Would you believe it? What was his excuse this time? More children? This new wife was a fire cracker”
Dear Bunmi, what if he turns me down?
“If you like this man, then tell him. Even if he turns you down, at least you’ll know where you stand!”
There is so much the police can do tackling under-aged sex
By Bunmi Sofola JOKE, a secondary school teacher married to James for close to 19 years tried not to raise her three children the way she’d been raised. “My father was very authoritarian and we were all in awe of him He was such a bully that mum dared not cross him. Prospective girlfriends and […]
How to turn your sex life into what your lover lusts after!
By Bunmi Sofola The average man thinks he’s great in bed, doesn’t he?” Only a few days ago, while chatting with some young lively and adventurous women, one of them complained that, ‘Some men’s between the sheets activities could be quite frustrating. It’s not that they lack enthusiasm, the problem is their technique – they […]
Are you the father of that child?
“It is an age-long thing really. Even in the villages, amongst stark illiterates, it happens all of the time. So why rock the boat? Fate has a way of giving you nasty kicks”
