“Dear Bunmi, I’ve always had strong feelings for her ex. And often used to see him looking at me in ‘that’ kind of way”

OPEN marriages work when one partner, usually the wife, turns a blind eye to her husband’s shenanigans. In most cases, the husband is usually careful not to push his luck by always flaunting his trophies.

By Bunmi Sofola Did you just suddenly wake up one day, look at yourself in the mirror and say: “My God! I’m getting old!” Or did the realisation creep in on you until you just can’t ignore it? Roli, now in her late 50s used to be a model and now runs her own modelling […]

“Dear Bunmi, it’s one thing to be bedding a casual girlfriend, but not a daughter-in-law! She said she loves my son and keen on marrying him”

By Bunmi Sofola MOST people want to meet Mr. Or Miss Right”. Said Jare a 30-year old single mother of one. “Most people in their youth dream of one day making a commitment to one person. When they do, they don’t then leave the marriage because they do not respect it, can’t stand living with an […]

“When our only son turned into drugs, he refused to intervene, leaving me to cope with his rehabilitation”

By Bunmi Sofola WE all have our share of foul-weather friends. But are you one yourself? Your career is grinding to a halt, the man you once termed “the best thing that ever happened to me” has found lasting bliss with another woman and your good friend is driving you insane giving you a blow-by-blow account […]

By Bunmi Sofola It is really amazing how an everyday occurrence suddenly snowballs into a nightmare.  A chance meeting with a friend, and Kayode’s world came tumbling down.  He’d rushed home in the middle of the day to pick up an important file he’d forgotten to take with him when he left for work in the […]

“There is absolutely nothing stopping you from getting pregnant when you have sex, be it your first or your hundredth”

“She never promised anything more than the good times you can give each other. Make the most of it but don’t forget to leave room for a more lasting relationship, if you intend to re-marry”

By Bunmi Sofola EVERY time Ireti visited her mother-in-law, her teeth were always on edge.  Ruth, her mother-in-law is now in her mid 70s, frail and ailing, but as full of spite as when Ireti married her precious son 15 years ago. “Ruth and I had always been at war,” confessed Ireti, “but Gboye, my […]

SOME years back, when I first learnt of ‘adult nursing’ I was greatly amused.  Was there no depth these men would not sink in their fixation with boobs?  Now they’d carried it off to a ridiculous extent.  “Adult nursing” is the term used for men who enjoy being breast-fed by a nursing mother!  According to James, […]

“Concentrate on the fact that she’s happy with you and you alone. If she enjoyed her previous life so much, she wouldn’t now be with you, would she?”

By Bunmi Sofola Research has found out that daughters of unfaithful fathers have less trust in men, lower expectations of their relationships and a lack of confidence – all hurdles Aminat said she’d had to overcome.  In her collection of old photographs, she has pictures of her, aged eleven, smiling up at an attractive woman who […]

“You love your wife and, obviously, have a happy home. Don’t let insane jealousy destroy what you’ve built over the years”