By Bunmi Sofola The golden advice is when you spot any sign of violence in a potential partner, you should run…  It’s not as cut and dried as that, “confessed Gloria, a 38-year-old tax consultant who recently escaped from the controlling clutches of a partner she referred to as a ‘nasty piece of work’. I […]

I don’t want to go and begin to blame anyone because, once people read my story, they will begin to judge me.

By Bunmi Sofola I was looking at some old family photographs the other day when I realised to my horror that Jude, my husband still wears the same revolting danshiki with matching trousers that he wore 12 years ago!  Moaned Jesicca, a 49 year old medical doctor married to Jude, 53 and the owner of […]

“Just as you once had to accept that he’d played away with other women, he will need to accept that you continue to sleep with your man”

By Bunmi Sofola A few months ago I spent a few days with a very dear friend who lives in a block of luxury flat, and noticed the occupant of the next flat to hers was new. In the past, the flat had been occupied by some noisy neighbours. It was a relief to have […]

After you’ve cooled down a bit, talk it over with your mom and let her know you would be relieved if she could put a stop to the affair. 

WHEN did that man you married with such love and hope turn into a monster who couldn’t stick to his vow to ‘protect’ you because he’s now the one actually violating you? You hear about rape cases and how victims are viciously treated without recourse to any form of redress; without giving a thought to […]

By Bunmi Sofola IMAGINE when your pregnancy is scanned for the first time so you could see your precious baby growing in the womb, suddenly its whole body gives a shudder and the foetus appears to jump. Such a movement is known as the startle reflex; and the scan described above are from photographs from […]

No one needs to be told what happens when you have unsafe sex. You may either get pregnant or contract STIs or both. Very few get away with it

Crazy, isn’t it? That the father of a child would be his grandfather.