He was my first love. We were together for four years from the age of 17 to 21, until we had to go our separate ways to further our studies.

By Bunmi Sofola It’s really a common problem – you have brief fling with a man.  At first you thought he was great, but you went off him.  He was far more interested in you than you were in him.  You told him how you felt, but he’s pestering you with texts and calls and […]

Dear Bunmi, she was friends with the man when I met her some 12 years ago. But she now tells me their affair only began a year ago

“… I should feel free to pop in as often as she called me that the coast was clear. It would be less suspicious if we met at their flat than for her to come to mine”

By Bunmi Sofola IF your love-life is flagging, you’re always advised to change your partner!  A it drastic, but it could be extremely inconvenient socially but there is one thing you definitely ought to try first – that is changing the background.  Many couples who have made love year after year in the same bed […]

By Bunmi Sofola THE word ‘soulmates’ seldom cropped into conversation some 15 years ago.  If it did, it was in romantic novels or deeply emotional romantic films.  Today the term is freely used by a lot of ‘modern’ loves.  “Single women worry there is something wrong with them because they can’t find their soulmate,” observes a […]

By Bunmi Sofola FAMILIARITY not only breeds contempt, it also breeds a hotbed of opportunities for unfaithfulness.  The more close-knit a crop of friends are, the wider the chances of swopping partners, albeit discreetly.  Tope’s recent experience, however, took the cake when it comes to how far you can go in forgiving a friend who ‘snatched’ […]

By Bunmi Sofola YOU must have, lost count of stories you’ve been regaled with about the shenanigans of some husbands and the family’s nanny. Only, it is a heartbreaking reality for some wives.  What does it feel like to be betrayed by the man you married with a woman living under your own roof?  And […]

Dear Bunmi, we’d been having a sizzling relationship since then, only for her to bring in one or two lovers to her flat.

By Bunmi Sofola When you need a shoulder to cry on, the first person that springs to  mind is your best friend, right?  Well, not necessarily.  Some best friends could be as deadly as your worst enemy.  That’s what Sefi found out when she was having problems with her husband.  He was almost 18 years older […]

MEN are the strongest allies when protecting their philandering interests.  Alex, an industrialist in his 60s recognized his first son’s potential as a businessman when he made brilliant success of his secondary school exams.  Getting him a place in one of the universities abroad was a doddle.  As soon as he finished his masters degree in […]

Arit was having a relaxed conversation with her boy friend, Jide in her bedroom when she heard some disturbing movements in her living room. Alarmed it could be armed robbers, she shushed Jide and hurried to bolt the bedroom door.  Before she could, however, the door flew open, revealing an angry man looking fit to murder!  […]

By Bunmi Sofola WHEN it comes to first kisses, scientists agree with those who believe in love at first sight, happy endings and the power of that first glorious embrace.  That’s because, Scientists say, a kiss is much more than just a way of saying you fancy someone.  It’s an efficient means of working out if […]

FROM time to time, I get letters from you readers that are so interesting that I feel I ought to share them with the rest of you.  A few days back, a letter simply signed “Iyabode” popped up on my e-mail and I couldn’t help chuckling to myself as I read it.  She wrote: “Dear Candida, […]

By Bunmi Sofola PREGNANCY for Dads-to-be:  Everything you need to know from Conception to Birth is a book currently making waves in the UK. Written by Adam Carpenter, it helps expectant and new dads get into the swing of childcare and gives as much as the new mothers – if not more!  According to him, becoming […]