By Bunmi Sofola IT would be easy to assume that it is young irresponsible girls who are most likely to opt for abortion, but it is, in fact, middle-aged women who are pushing up the abortion rate.  Emilia was a divorced mother of three and just turned 40, when she met Chuka, a widower at a […]

Dear Bunmi, he recently came back from a three-week course where he said he got friendly with a female delegate

By Bunmi Sofola Until recently, Jibola, a 39-year-old accountant was the life and soul of most parties he attended.  He would think nothing of polishing off a bottle or two of red wine, then follow it up with whatever booze was available.  Then, one day, horrified at seeing a colleague’s daughter’s wedding photographs and how ridiculous […]

“Her appearance now puts me off, and I can only get aroused by picturing younger girls I’d slept with”

Dear Bunmi, I don’t love my wife anymore, but if I sent her packing, I, along with our three children, would be the ones to suffer

By Bunmi Sofola It was a bit uncanny. I was at this seminar when a professionally dressed female executive flitted across the room and she reminded me of a younger version of Angela. We were classmates in secondary school. Very intelligent and a bookworm, she did so well for herself that after getting a good […]

By Bunmi Sofola HAVE you readers noticed the new and growing breed of ‘forever singles’?  It consists of a band of empowered, independent women who don’t want to be defined by a relationship.  Not for them nights slumped on the sofa trying to pacify a screaming kid whilst their man snores in front of Super […]

By Bunmi Sofola When a woman sizes up the opposition and sees she could give her a good run for her money, she often doubles up her effort to win back her man.   But what does she do if the opposition is a granny?!   Andrey, and her husband, Caleb, had been married for eighty years […]

By Bunmi Sofola FIVE years ago, I’d called on Florence, a very good friend at her Abuja residence after not seeing her for close to three years.   We talked constantly on the phone, of course.   But when I had to go to Abuja on business, I thought I would save on hotel accommodation by staying […]

By Bunmi Sofola Nikky made her way to her office that fateful Monday morning, she saw a group of some female members of staff clustering round the photo copiers and chattering excitedly.  When they saw her, the silence was eerie, and instead of scurrying off to their seats, they looked at her with defiance. “I simply […]