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Just before option B

Up until a few weeks ago, I never thought I could ever find myself advising a married woman on the need to keep certain information to herself, if indeed she desired peace in her marriage. The understanding in relationship and marriage counselling has always been that adequate communication between partners is the key to a successful co-existence. So, partners are always advised to be up straight with each other in everything they do. To see themselves as co-pilots of the aircraft which represents their union or relationship, thus, cooperation is key if they don’t want it to crash. Withholding information on their dreams and aspirations, desires, finances, needs, friends and even movements at anytime, is believed to be capable of sparking off an argument which could lead to disaffection and distrust.  In fact, there will be no harmony if each partner were to be doing their own thing different from the other. I have however been forced to join others to give a contrary advise to a young lady recently. I still feel sad about it.

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How God vindicated me

Childlessness in a marriage is not what any woman would pray for. Not even for her enemy. Its attendant problems are myriad and if not properly handled by the couple it can end the marriage and ruin many other beautiful things associated with the union. The woman is usually at the receiving end, she stands accused and bears all the pains. 

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The love rat who promised marriage was still single!

THERE is no fool like an old fool. After the failure of a relationship, most women, instead of staying back to lick their wounds and restrategise, rush into the arms of the first glib-tongued man they run into. And make the same mistakes all over again—if not worse! When Vivian divorced her husband, eight years ago, she went into a stormy ‘relationship’ that lasted five years.” She said sadly. “The only good thing that came out of it was my catering business. It grew to such an extent I was able to complete the reconstruction of my house so that the ground floor could be used as a decent restaurant. Now, I was more than happy the place pulled in good customers from most of the offices around it.

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Dad’s ‘mysterious’ demise

Towards the end of last year, I picked up the phone in my parents’ home only for a doctor in a private hospital to inform the family that our dad was seriously ill in the hospital. Instinctively, I told him I would be over without telling my mum. She was the perfect wife and mother and I was sure there was more to what the doctor told me as dad left home hale and hearty that fateful day.

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