Dear Bunmi,

My 28-year-old daughter has been with her boyfriend on and off for six years. He left her for another girl when she got pregnant, then came back when she had a son.

The problem is that tales abound about his constant philandering. My daughter’s friends have assured her that he’ll settle down once he’s sowed his wild oats.

How much wild oats are you supposed to sow when you’re in your 30s and a father? I am worried that he can’t really love her if he keeps being unfaithful. My daughter is not getting younger.

Funmi by e-mail.

Dear Funmi,

I agree with you on this; some men are just not husband material and it is obvious that your daughter’s man is nowhere near ready for commitment. And if he’s not ready for commitment when he has a child to look after, when will he be?

The problem is that by the sound of it, your daughter doesn’t see it that way. She took him back when he’s betrayed her and is currently putting up with more betrayals.

So tell her what you think, but don’t expect her to dump him. AIl you can do, I’m afraid, is support her now and be ready to pick up the pieces when things finally go wrong.