By Aunty Julie

Dear Aunty Julie,

I am 55 and worried that I will never be able to have sex again. Two years ago, I noticed that my penis had begun to bend because of my diagnosed of peyronies disease. The doctor recommended vitamin E supplements and using a vacuum pump to help with erections, but neither has worked. Now I can no longer make love to my wife.

Victor, Delta

Love

Dear Victor,

Peyronies disease, which is a build-up of plaque under the skin of the penis, is a distressing condition. It impacts heavily on intimacy and lovemaking and, understandably, can adversely affect a man’s self-esteem, mood and feelings of masculinity.

Research shows that varying degrees of peyronie’s disease can affect around one in 20 menacross the globe and sadly, around 45 per cent feels their doctor has not been helpful. If you are in a loving relationship, it is devastating not to be able to enjoy the pleasure, excitement and closeness that making love brings. Return to your GP and ask for a referral to a urologist.

There are many treatments available, from oral drugs to injections – even surgery. You have a loving wife, so talk to her and tell her how much you love her and miss the sexual relationship you shared. Explain to her what treatments are available and that you are going to get the help you need.

In the meantime, continue to touch, kiss and caress as it’s important to feel close to each other and know that you will hopefully be able to make love again.