By Bunmi Sofola A few months ago I spent a few days with a very dear friend who lives in a block of luxury flat, and noticed the occupant of the next flat to hers was new. In the past, the flat had been occupied by some noisy neighbours. It was a relief to have […]

After you’ve cooled down a bit, talk it over with your mom and let her know you would be relieved if she could put a stop to the affair. 

WHEN did that man you married with such love and hope turn into a monster who couldn’t stick to his vow to ‘protect’ you because he’s now the one actually violating you? You hear about rape cases and how victims are viciously treated without recourse to any form of redress; without giving a thought to […]

By Bunmi Sofola IMAGINE when your pregnancy is scanned for the first time so you could see your precious baby growing in the womb, suddenly its whole body gives a shudder and the foetus appears to jump. Such a movement is known as the startle reflex; and the scan described above are from photographs from […]

No one needs to be told what happens when you have unsafe sex. You may either get pregnant or contract STIs or both. Very few get away with it

Crazy, isn’t it? That the father of a child would be his grandfather.

How do you spot a love rat?  The current man in your life has virtually swept you off your feet.  He texts you all day, takes you to your favourite eatery from time to time, boys you little gifts and calls you at night because he can’t stop thinking of you!  The first time Sandra’s […]

By Bunmi Sofola A few months ago I spent a few days with a very dear friend who lives in a block of luxury flat, and noticed ante occupant of the next flat to hers was new.  In the past, the flat had been occupied by some noisy neighbours.  It was a relief to have […]

By Bunmi Sofola There’s no explaining the function of the heart (head?) when it comes to sex.  One minute, you’re seemingly happily married, the next you want nothing to do with your ex and head straight for the divorce court.  At the end of it all, you feel relieved.  Once in a while, you might […]

By Bunmi Sofola ANY festive period is ideal for coming up with a party you hope with serve as snare for trapping money bags. Having a party to get a sizeable contract or two from friends of your lover seems a bit calculating, but tell them cheerily that you are having a Christmas or New […]

“Dear Bunmi, I love and hate her for all the emotional trauma she made me go through. I’m wondering what would happen if her ex showed up”

IT’S been going on for ages, often discussed in hushed tones, a name is finally pinned to it. Polyamory. Monogamy, although still by far the most popular choice, isn’t the only option any more. In fact, more and more couples are classing themselves as polyamorous, even though many of you readers have no idea what […]

By Bunmi Sofola WOULD you attend your ex-husband’s wedding to his new bride even if he’s behaved like a rat?  When Angela’s marriage broke down irretrievably some five years ago, she was very bitter that she’d been left to raise their three children as a single parent. “Until that point,” she recalled, “Uzor was my whole […]

By Bunmi Sofola Recently, a former colleague told me that she was worried about an older brother who had suddenly gone religious.  According to her, this brother said: “he could hear God talking to him through the radio.  He also alleged that all of us in the family were evil because, we didn’t believe in the spiritual […]

By Bunmi Sofola THE amount the average woman spends to look glamorous these days could make the average husband bankrupt for the rest of his life! Hakeem, a spare parts dealer and in his 40s is a self-made man. He’d first served as an apprentice under the uncle who brought him up before he was […]