SINCE I came back from the UK a couple of years ago, I have had dates with a string of successful, charming, university educated men from lawyers to bankers and showbiz men and, no matter how serious the relationship became, not one of them ever mentioned safe sex or used a condom without my insistence”, said Nina, in her late 20s and a fairly successful IT expert. “Which begs the question: in a city where unbridled hedonism is becoming the norm, what has happened to the AIDS conversation? There is a lack of awareness among young people, and the belief that ‘this won’t happen to me’. And saying STDs are something only dirty people get is unfortunately, a typical view which is scary, considering the sexual health record the country has.

WHAT sort of buzz, drives a man to one-night-stand, relationships? Lola had accompanied her friend to her ex-husband’s birthday party, hoping to have the good time she promised. “He has birthday bashes annually”, said Lola, “and my friend has stayed friends with her ex because he was a good provider even when their marriage wasn’t really working.

While much has been said about the quality of parenting Ese had with a mother who runs and bukateria and a father out of job, prior to her alleged abduction, I want to focus more on what they did after, though the two are interwoven and adds up to the total bizarre picture that is now working us all up into a frenzy. According to Ese’s mother, the unfortunate incident took place late night, 12th August, 2015 when the then 13 year old girl refused to return from a visit to a sick friend. While no one has identified the veracity of the story told by Ese to her parents, if indeed there was a sick friend or if it was only an excuse to get the exit, it still bothers me that a little child of Ese’s age could be let loose to go visiting a friend all by herself, unless it was on the same street. At what time of the day? After school hours when she ought to be busy with her home work or helping out in the shop?

I find it difficult to ejaculate easily and can have sex with nothing happening for a long time. My girlfriend is now getting frustrated because she says I wear off all her lubrication and make her sore. I don’t know what the problem is as I have no problem masturbating.

I knew my boyfriend was romantically linked to a fashion designer almost 16 years his senior when I met him. He was a widower and his lover visited as often as she could because she was married.