The condom is the most popular form of contraception. This is because it is the only contraception so far that combines the function of prevention of pregnancy with prevention of STDs at a go. Almost everyone seems to know what condoms are and what they are used for. However, not everyone who uses the condom knows how to do so properly and effectively, making nonsense of the whole process.

The advantages of family planning cannot be overemphasised both in terms of individual and societal good. Besides helping the woman to maintain a healthier lifestyle, it helps to harness and manage family resources better, while on a broader perspective, societies can control population explosion, as well as improve socio-economic infrastructure of their people. It is pure common sense and logic which has helped many economies across the world to thrive better.

Women have been known to be the worst kind of blabbermouths – they tell each other everything and anything. “But to the point of discussing intimate bedroom secrets of their partners?” gawked Desmond when I reminded him of this fact. Married for 16 years, he’d a bit of a misunderstanding with his wife. Again! Was he doing something wrong? Did Labo, his wife’s best friend have an insight into what his wife believe he should be doing? Taking courage in his hands, he recently had a word with Labo. As their little `talk’ progressed, he squirmed as Labo processed to confide in him some of the things that were bugging her friend.

We all listened with rapt attention as Uncle Steve narrated a personal experience he described as a narrow escape from the hands of a young, calculating, gold digger and her mother. But for reluctantly opting to undergo a vasectomy seven years ago, he would have blindly walked into a trap and become a polygamist, he said, and we all broke into laughter, including his wife.

I left the village to come and live with my uncle in Abuja. Unfortunately, he lost his job and since I was already employed by a private nursery school, I decided to move in with my boyfriend who is a personal assistant to the proprietress.

When my partner and I split up four years ago, I was devastated and jumped at a temporary transfer from my office to one of the branches in another state to get away from it all. It was there I met another colleague and we started a relationship, but it ended when I was transferred back to head office. In time my ex and I got back together and he proposed. We got married early last year and now have a lovely daughter.
When I resumed from my maternity leave, I was shocked to find my ex lover working in head office on temporary transfer. He knew of my marriage and was happy with it.

By Yetunde Arebi A couple of months ago, the story of a couple at the brink of separation was published on this column and I asked readers the question above. Bisola and Akinola, blessed with three children, had been married for 17 years, living with each other’s excesses as most couples do. Then one day, […]

It is a known fact that having a relationship adds a lot of va-va-voom to your life. Suddenly, you’re a better person to be with and life couldn’t be more exciting. Then you have an almighty row and you’re boiling with rage.

I am sexually attracted to a man at work and I’m married. The attraction is so strong and I must confirm the feeling is mutual.

My current boyfriend is a hunk: Sophisticated and loving. He is also quite adventurous in his love-making. A few weeks ago, he said he’d like to ‘spice up’ our sex life by bringing his camcorder into the bedroom and taping us we make love! We currently live together but until he made his weird suggestion, I had no idea he was a pervert! Half joking, I told him he needed his head examined, but he laughed at me, saying a lot of his friends did it and that it wasn’t such a big deal.