My problem is my husband. Before we got married, he was very descent and a gentleman. Since we got married, however, he has turned into what can best be described as an animal. He likes to have sexual intercourse in unusual and perverted ways. Although we have a comfortable bed, he likes to lay me on a hard floor. He asked me to suck him. I want to please him in this, but the thing is so large, it always makes me choky. I never asked him to do anything abnormal so why has he turned into someone I now fear? 

A few months ago, my best friend’s brother paid a visit to one of the top managers in the office I worked for. He didn’t know I worked there and was actually glad to see me.
He offered me lunch and we had a lovely time. When he asked where I stayed, I told him. I thought he was just being polite but you can imagine how surprised I was when I saw him at my doorsteps a few days later. He said he was in the neighbourhood to see a friend.

After my two-part article on why women have sex, I received several messages from readers who were interested in knowing quite the opposite, why women don’t want to have sex. One guy said if it was true that women have sex for all the reasons mentioned, then, they have enough reasons to have sex almost every day. Another wanted to know why once married, most women lose interest in sex and all they do is find excuses for their lack of interest. He went on to postulate that if women gave enough sex to their husbands, then they would be less tempted to cheat on them. I told him I did not totally agree with that position

What’s most offensive to me is if we make a noise above a whisper while talking or making love, we hear the neighbours react by sarcastically making sex noises and laughing next door. This feels like a big invasion of privacy. It’s making me self-conscious to make a peep during intimacy.Do you have any suggestions?

I found out that I’m pregnant and my ex-boyfriend is the father. We have broken up before I found out I was pregnant. He’s going out with another girl now and acts like he doesn’t want anything to do with me! I don’t know how to tell him. I don’t also know how to tell my parents or his parents .I don’t want to go through this as a single parent. What should I do?

Dear Julie, My girlfriend doesn’t like condoms. She prefers sex naturally without any artificiality. We have begun having sex recently. The first few times we did, we used condoms. But she doesn’t feel good with it. She said she prefers to feel me. Lately, we stopped using it. I always pull out before I come. […]

Hi, Surfing through the internet, early Thursday morning, I came across this story that informed my decision on today’s article. It is the story of newlywed couple, Edith Hill, 96 and Eddie Harrison, 95, from Alexandria, Virginia, USA which is currently causing ripples among family and even the court.

On reading the first contribution you will find on this page, I could not help but send a reply to the writer. It captured some of the stories the couple shared with me which informed their decision not to discuss their problem with the church and which were impossible for me to publish earlier on. According to worried guy, he was afraid he would make a fool of himself like one of his friends and a church member. On the guys wedding night, he had suddenly discovered that he could not gain an erection, tried as he could. Afraid that he had a serious problem on his hands, he had decided to call one of their senior pastors who decided that he needed prayers.

There comes a time in a woman’s life when she has to decide who to settle with and make a go for him. Laila had once briefly engaged to her childhood sweetheart who took off with one of her close friends. Now approaching 30, she’s been involved with Joseph, a photographer who runs his own studio. “He specialises in society events and sells photographs to most of these society magazines”, explained Laila. “She’d taken so much time and money setting up his business that he didn’t give marriage a thought until he was convinced he could look after a prospective family.

Three days after she had her first child, Halimat’s husband, Doja, brought mother and child home – with Doja’s mother happily ensconce in the family home. “Shortly after we arrived, I put my son in the Moses’ basket we already had ready for him”, Halimat said. “All of a sudden, the sound of my newborn son’s cries filtered through to the living room, stinging my ears and piercing my heart. I rushed to where he was but I was too late. He was already in the possessive grasp of my mother-in-law who’d placed an exclusion zone of fierce grand-motherly love around him, barring all from going near.